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I recently had a flirtation with a guy whereby we debated the merits of using Dictionary.com versus the actual hard copy, old school, book version of the dictionary. And I realized, with some degree of alarm, that this felt familiar. That this—this courting by way of words—was not a one-time thing. It was a recurring thing. It was my thing.
Note: As always, follow my continuing journey on my personal blog, So about what I said...I first spotted Cute Cafeteria Guy one sunny spring afternoon as I sat down to eat my usual, boring lunch. The cafeteria was crowded, but it didn’t seem to bother him as he tucked himself away at a corner toward the back. He had that boyish cuteness about him, his attention transfixed on his laptop, which of course was a state-of-the-art model. He remained quiet, shy and reserved, and I remained, well, very interested. He was mysterious and I wanted to know more. Over the next week, I continued to spot him as I sipped my Mountain Dew and tried to work up the courage to approach him. But he suddenly disappeared, and alas, my hopes were quickly and swiftly dashed.
Note: Don't forget to follow my journey on my personal blog, So about what I said... I had just turned 15 when I started The List. It was a secret file on my computer that I just prayed no one would find. I rationalized it in my mind: Doesn't everyone make these sorts of lists? After all, it wasn't anything dirty (my early-teen mind had just been scared stiff from a semester of health class and Lifetime movies); instead, it was innocent and little did I know at the time that what started so private would turn into such an eye-opening experience. Over the years, the list grew and grew. And though nothing ever materialized beyond putting their names on the list, it didn't matter. I didn't just fantasize about these men from afar, I fell headfirst over the edge and into a deep, shallow ravine – a ravine of obsessing, analyzing, and of course, there was some drooling in there too.
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Geeky all the way. Brainy is hot. 8% Athletic and muscular. 16% A musician or writer. I like guys with an artistic side. 10% Someone with a sense of humor that will keep me laughing. 55% I don't have a type. I date them all! 10%
Geeky men are the best kept secret in the dating world. We've hoarded this info for years, but since spring is here and the weather is finally lightening, we're feeling generous and will pass along this kernel of wisdom to you, dear readers. Time to grow up and realize the soft-spoken, slightly disheveled, not overly hip guy seated in the corner over there, would actually make a much, much better boyfriend. 1.) He won't take you for granted. 2.) A massive ego is less likely. 3.) No worries about revealing your geeky side. 4.) Use him as your style canvas.
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You're too smart for love. Finding friends that are smart enough to tackle your impressive noggin is a feat. Finding similar qualities in a date seem altogether impossible.
