3 powerful steps that will finally release the roots of bitterness in your relationship!
I had been working with a couple on the concept of making amends and offering one another sincere apologies for ways in which they have hurt one another. He stated truthfully that he was not ready to offer an apology that was genuine because he still was not getting what he wanted and needed in this marriage. After further discussion, both people were able to see they have some deep roots of resentment and bitterness towards one another that they were not willing and able to release yet.
Get the real story about forgiveness and how it can allow you to heal and let go of your ex.
We've all heard about how important it is to forgive. This might be a lesson that your parents or religious and spiritual leaders taught you when you were a young child. In most people's minds, "forgiveness" is something kind and beneficial. It is also expected. As great as forgiveness is, few people genuinely do it.
Healing your heart means changing your outlook on things!
My eight year old son walks around with a box of rocks everywhere he goes and tells everyone that he is a geologist. When people ask if that is what he wants to be when he grows up, he always replies, "I am a geologist. I don't have to grow up to know what I am." This is the simplest example of faith. When you want something so bad and you can say you have become it or have received it, you have acquired faith. Retaining faith is when you can truly believe something in your heart, even when others doubt you or you feel your world has fallen apart. Some people may call it the secret or the power. Whatever you feel comfortable calling it, it simply is pure faith.
What You Can Do To Heal, With And Without The Other
One question that we all struggle with at some point in our lives is what to do when we get hurt by another person. Whether it's a parent, spouse, child, or friend, we all need to find an answer to the question of what to do with the experience. Depending on your personality, you might respond more with anger or more with sadness, but the truth is, we all get hurt by others and need to find a way to deal with this. But what does that look like? What if the other is unapologetic, incapable, or no longer around? How do you best “move on”?
The National Marriage Project uses 4 questions to measure generosity, a sign of happy relationships.
Studies show that being a generous partner not only makes for a happier relationship, but actually provides health benefits for both partners. But how can you tell whether you're truly generous? Many people have trouble assessing this personality trait, and tend to overestimate their own generosity. Others are chronic "givers," letting their significant other walk all over them and often not even knowing it.
The best muscles to work out in our relationships are above the neckline.
by Mike Tinder for 21st Century Man
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We are approaching the end of 2011 and the beginning of a new year. Like many, the New Year’s resolution of “getting in shape” has likely crossed your mind. The resolution is always driven by the sales drive by those gyms and you see the ads for perfect bodies in the magazines.
With the split of Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore hitting the newswire it brings up the question ...
We believe it's possible to come out of the other side better and stronger as a couple, however, dramatic changes need to happen in order for the relationship to survive. This is not something that can change quickly or without effort. There’s a shift that must take place for both parties to rectify and move on — together.
Insight that can help you bypass the drama and obtain a successful relationship!
End your pattern by becoming aware. Uber aware. Know what triggers your pattern (e.g., what tips off that nightly conversation) so you can stop the cycle before it starts running without your permission. Then decide how you want to act instead. What's your ideal state if your pattern didn't exist? Consciously replace your patterned response with an action that matches how you want things to look.
Just as you can't judge a film by one scene, you can't judge a person by one hurtful thing he does.
Perhaps we've all had an intimate partner who has said or done things to us that seem simply unforgivable. Can you remember a circumstance where you spoke hurtful or hateful words, and later recognized that you did not really mean them? The context of your life affected the content of what you said. Maybe you were tired, afraid, angry, stressed, or feeling hurt. In that moment you just had to defend yourself, get some space, work through anxiety, or vent some frustration.
YourTango Experts help us identify, accept and move beyond the flaws that hold us back from love.
Do you turn into a shrew when you get stressed out or unnecessarily panic in a crisis? It's OK; no one is perfect—we all have our little idiosyncrasies, quirks, or bad habits that we'd rather repress than own. But in order to have better relationships with ourselves and our partners, it's important to embrace these individual flaws or "shadows," and move from living in a mode of denial and self-criticism to one that's more loving.
Love does not fail us; we fail to see our own loveliness and the love coming towards us.
“I believe that the world was created and approved by love that it subsists, coheres, and endures by love, and that, insofar as it is redeemable, it can be redeemed only by love.” -Wendell Berry
Love saves us. Although this line of thinking is usually reserved for religious parables, the truth of life bears out that love is the singular source that enlightens, inspires and guides us to the very best of our selves.
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