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Study: Women Feel Worse About Themselves After Losing Virginity

A college study shows how men and women's self-esteems fare after having sex for the first time.

A new study shows women are generally less satisfied with their physical appearance after their first time having sex. A man's self-esteem, on the flip side, generally goes up after losing his virginity.

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7 Things You Didn't Know About The Hymen

Get the facts about a widely misunderstood part of the female anatomy, the hymen.

Ah, yes. The hymen. That tiny little membrane that supposedly covers our lady parts. Let's clear a few things up, shall we? You might have grown up believing that whole urban legend about the hymen "ripping" or "breaking" during first intercourse, and as a result, there was going to be some major pain involved. Turns out that just isn't the case, folks.

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Sleeping With A Virgin: What It's Really Like

Having sex with a virgin: is it fun or not?

I was twenty-seven when I met “David.” He lived in my neighborhood and we seemed to have the same schedule and/or routine, because we would see each other all the time. Whether I was grocery shopping, getting cash from an ATM, enjoying Happy Hour, or just simply wandering around on a Saturday, I would always see him. It became a running joke with my friends that I was stalking the pretty boy. It also became a joke between David and me, because after several months of awkwardness (it was really that often), we finally started acknowledging each other with smiles and nods that eventually evolved into waves and small talk, and soon, full-fledged banter.

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What My First Time Taught Me About Sex

What did you learn the first time you had sex?

An obsessive-compulsive perfectionist shares a humorous account of virginity loss, and the lessons she learned from her first sexual experience.

The first time

The first time

How to know if it's the right time for your first time. A guide for both teenagers and parents with kids who are reaching that age.

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5 Tips For Spending The Night With A New Guy

5 tips for beating stress about spending the night with a new guy.

So you've decided to take the plunge and have a sleepover with the person you're dating. Whether it's actually just sleeping or it's the first time you two do the deed, a first sleepover with someone new can be stressful.Follow these tips for an evening of more fun and less anxiety about the things that could go awry.

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Diary Of A Former Fat Girl: Sex And The Scale

A formerly overweight newlywed discovers that feeling sexy on her honeymoon is not about being thin.

A formerly overweight newlywed discovers that feeling sexy on her honeymoon is not about being thin. "I was running four miles a day, panting through countless crunches, and bleeding sweat on the Stairmaster at the gym, and for what? Well, like every other woman in America, I wanted to feel sexy. But more than that, I wanted to look sexy for my soon-to-be husband. I was two months from getting married. My hunt for sultry lingerie and swimsuits for our Cancun honeymoon had sent me into hysterics."

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How Dirty Dancing Ruined My Love Life

Dirty Dancing made her crush on Patrick Swayze and believe too much in fairy-tale romance.

Dirty Dancing ruined my love life. I'm not sure how one movie could so deeply affect me. Maybe it was because I saw the movie when I was young and impressionable, or maybe it's just that I watched the film so often that my VHS copy actually broke in the VCR. All I know is that the lessons I learned about love in the summer of 1987 set me up for some massive disappointments later in life.

The Truth about Virgins

The Truth about Virgins

I knew this topic would catch your eye!:P Don't get too excited...this blog consists of my opinions on the issue of virginity...that's it.That's right, no phallic imagery :(

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How I Became A Divorced Virgin

A five-year marriage with no sex: the true story of a divorced virgin.

How I became a divorced virgin: "I was twenty-nine, single again after a five-year marriage, and a virgin. When I met my now ex-husband Mike, I had just turned 21. We met at small Catholic liberal arts college, and even though I no longer believed in Jesus, the Saints, the Bible, God, really any of that. I was a virgin then, and I was a virgin when we divorced."

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The Links: Bachelorette Parties And The Naked Date

Suggestive ads, making a good husband, your first time and Muff Road rage.

What makes a boyfriend into a husband? Suggestive sausage ads. What happens at a bachelor party? Bachelorette party gift dont's. A movie about your first time. What, exactly, is a naked date? The survey says: men and women are different. Could you live on Muff Road?