![Should I Accept Him...Or Try To Change Him? [EXPERT]](http://images.tangomag.com/sites/default/files/imagecache/node-full/images/sad20woman-1.jpg "Should I Accept Him...Or Try To Change Him? [EXPERT]")
How many times in your life did you find yourself facing the question: Should I accept him the way he is, should I try to change him, or should I just leave? What are some of the factors to consider when making this decision? Do we always have to know at first sight that he is "the one” or can we allow ourselves to ponder on it for a while?
We all deserve a red-hot relationship with lasting love, and we typically find it through the dating process. I encourage single men and women to get to know many potential love matches simultaneously--on platonic levels--until you sort through mis-matches and choose your most compatible match for a serious relationship. When you meet someone you view as a potential love match, what's the top question to ask them? Are you dating anyone?
Turns out the qualities people find most attractive about others are ones we can control: Grooming, diet, posture — not the beauty you were born (or not born) with. So, rejoice: You don't have to be a supermodel to get dates and be noticed by men.
Every month, I always enjoy reading Jake's column in Glamour magazine. Since 1956, it's been penned by a slew of anonymous, single men who've helped countless women navigate the dating world by writing honestly and openly about the game of love from a man's perspective. One of the more recent Jakes has written a book, "Always Hit On The Wingman: And 9 Other Secret Rules For Getting The Love Life You Want."
Think it's a far stretch to say that Martin Luther King Jr.'s teachings can land you the man of your dreams? "Come on, YourTango, not everything has a love angle," you say. Well, one of our experts, Shay "Your Date Diva" Williams, wrote an article just in time for MLK Day that will prove you wrong.
Do you keep meeting disappointing men? The ones who seem so promising at first, but then end up never calling you, or worse — promising you the world and then breaking your heart? A recent Chemistry.com poll says it may be because you're living in the wrong city.
![3 Steps to Your Ideal Relationship [EXPERT]](http://images.tangomag.com/sites/default/files/imagecache/node-full/images/78466450-1.jpg "3 Steps to Your Ideal Relationship [EXPERT]")
Idyllic Vision of Love Most of us grew up with an idyllic vision of love from “Happily Ever After” stories and movies. This idyllic vision takes us on a roller coaster ride, full of twists and turns. We’re in relationships that aren’t ideal. We stay in relationships that are clearly over. We don’t fully express ourselves for fear of getting hurt. We do these things in the name of love. I know this to be true because this was who I was.
For singles the new year means a new year of opportunity to find the perfect partner, or at least a few quick flings. But location can be as important as anything for finding that just-right mix of attractiveness and chemistry.
At one of my workshops I asked my audience why, in their opinion, they hadn’t been able to attract their ideal life partner. One woman raised her hand and said: Because I want it too much. We all have a sense that when we want something too much, we never get it. Because when we want something too much – we suffer because we don’t have it yet. And from a place of suffering it is impossible to create anything healthy or positive.
Do you want to find love this year? Have you ever wished you could “have it all?” This is your year! Follow these steps to finally find love in 2012: Step 1: Get completely clear about who you desire. “The List” or not “The List?” That is the question. The answer is … absolutely The List. Make a list of 100 qualities you desire in your mate. Then, make a list of the 100 amazing qualities about you. Are you afraid to ask for what you really desire?
![10 Tips for Meeting Your Match at the Gym [EXPERT]](http://images.tangomag.com/sites/default/files/imagecache/node-full/images/couple_1.jpg "10 Tips for Meeting Your Match at the Gym [EXPERT]")
The New Year is upon us and with it comes New Years resolutions. More people frequent the gym in January than during any other month. Here are 10 tips for singles who will be hitting the gym in January: 1. Don’t wear earphones. If you tune in to music on your ipod or watch TV while on the elliptical, you’re tuning out everyone around you. People who wear earphones are not approachable. Take them off!
