financial inequality
Relationship advice isn't easy and sometimes the pros mess up.
There is a boatload of people giving advice on the interweb these days. Some of them are doctors. Some of them are the offspring of advice royalty. Some of them are rascals that have seen a thing or two in this crazy world. And some of them phone it in from time to time. Every couple of weeks, I like to find advice that I'm not thrilled with and FIX IT! Slate's Dear Prudence (AKA Margo Tenenbaum Margo Howard) has come across a little problem regarding the lil blue pill. It turns out that a man … Read More
In relationships, financial conflict might actually be about something deeper.
My poor cousin Dan. A middle-aged joker with a surprising spiritual bent, he'd been single a long time when he met… well, let's call her Lynn. It was great, he said, to be intimate with someone again. They saw each other every day, and within a couple months they were living together. But even on their first date, Dan remembers, there were signs: all the talk about the Lexus or Infiniti she wanted; all that food she ordered and didn't eat. Nevertheless, he felt good about the agreed-upon plan for sharing his place, which he owned. Lynn would pay $500 … Read More
Cathi and Dan give advice on financial inequality.
Cathy Hanauer is the editor of The Bitch in the House. Daniel Jones is the editor of The Bastard on the Couch. They have been married for 14 years and together they provide a his and hers take on questions about sex, love, dating and relationships. This round: financial inequality.
Question: I'm a professional with a good salary. I really love my boyfriend of five months, but he works in the nonprofit world, and it seems like he’ll never make a lot of money. To me, that’s a flaw in an otherwise perfect guy. But should I allow it … Read More
It turns out there are reasons we do that faux grab for our wallet.
Who pays on a first date? Even in 2008, it's a loaded issue—and not in the sense of whether the guy you're out with is or isn't. Even among experienced daters, deciding who should pick up the check stirs up complicated emotions.In the video above, Tango asked a few ordinary civilians—and recently ELLE/MSNBC.com did too, in the form of their sex and money survey. 74,000 respondees, and still no definitive answer. But according to Piper Weiss, in today's Daily News, a few interesting themes did emerge.
According to the poll:
-2/3 of men want to split the tab.
-More … Read More
A recent survey shows 88 percent of men OK with wife earning more.
Last week, we reported that men are increasingly sharing household chores with women.
In another sign of our ever-evolving times, nearly ninety percent of 74,000 men surveyed reported that they would not mind if their wife earned more than they did, according to MSNBC and Elle magazine.
Of course, being a working woman, wife and mother requires sacrifice, such as living with dust bunnies under the bed or returning to work soon after having a baby.
And while men report feeling comfortable with a bread-winning woman, communication is key to ensuring balanced emotions towards Read More
Nicole Cohen didn't realize how much her life would change by marrying wealthy.
I live in a famous building on Fifth Avenue owned by a certain publicity loving billionaire with a bad pompadour. One year ago, I had no health insurance and lived with my parents in Brooklyn. What happened?
It's simple, really: I fell in love with a man who is out of my age—and tax—bracket. Some people would call me a trophy wife. At times, I, too, have wondered if that's what I've become.
When I met David at a party of a mutual friend, I was a 21-year-old Jewish girl with a freshly minted Ivy League degree in philosophy, … Read More
Sometimes financial disparity can be a major problem in a relationship.
Once, I dated a man, who was very, very poor. That’s what he said, and I believed him. Why wouldn’t I? He had wads of medical bills left over from a bout with cancer; he had child support; he had business expenses; and—oh, yes—he had the Chinese symbol for money tattooed on his Achilles tendon.
Since I lived in Manhattan and he was in North Carolina, we spent much of our relationship commuting. Plane tickets cost money, and though we tried to split the fares, I ended up paying for the bulk of them.
I didn’t really mind. He’d … Read More