What might a sexologist wish she learned about sex and sexuality growing up?
Growing up in a relatively typical Chinese family in Singapore, I received very little sexuality education. Let me give you the context: I did not know that what I had "down there" was called the vulva even though I had the "bits." I did not attempt to pronounce the word penis until I was 26, and as if that by itself was not awkward enough, I was then told that I said it wrong! Here are nine things that I wish I had learned in sex-ed as a teenager...
Want Him to Lust After Your Body and Sex? Follow This Rule and Your Sex Appeal Will Skyrocket!
I hate rules. I hate telling women to follow them. I like offering mindful 'dos' and 'don'ts' that women can use as guidelines to make sure they are on track with acting like one half of a considerate, respectful, loving, and caring whole. Rules, on the other hand, seem stifling and repressing to a woman’s individuality. I think, however, that the following rule is very empowering and actually helps relieve women of stifling insecurities and releases repressed sexual urges. So I will allow myself to suggest it.
Here it is:
A second look at old unquestioned ideas about sex that may be negatively impacting your sex life.
Myth 1: Lube is For old people
Actually, lube is for anyone who wants to have a lot of sex. Or sex in a short amount of time. Or anal sex. Or sex with a condom. Or sex when they are feeling a bit stressed and their body is not keeping up with their libido. Or for anyone taking antihistamines… You see where I am going with this, right? Artificial lube is a great thing for your sex life and it will serve you to get comfortable with it.
Zestra is getting the cold shoulder from networks. Totally unfair?
Zestra Essential Arousal Oils, that all-natural blend of botanical oils meant to prime ladyparts for sex, has had a tough time getting TV advertising space. Not only have Facebook and WebMD refused to run Zestra's ad, most radio stations and TV networks have only OK'd the spot for the late-night graveyard or other non-primetime shifts. Was there ever such hoopla over erectile dysfunction ads? Why do men regaining erections get Superbowl commercial spots while middle-aged ladies desiring more orgasms can only be seen by insomniacs? Is there a double standard, or is the ad really just too suggestive? Watch it and tell us.
Whether you are eighteen or eighty eight, being a woman can be celebratory if you are willing to learn from all the different stages and ages we all inevitably go through. Each transition is a new journey and the destination may not be what you expected, but it can be memorable and magical, especially if you possess a positive attitude.
Ashley Madison does a swift trade the day after Mother's Day.
Sometimes, Mother's Day is a little under-whelming. Ashley Madison founder Noel Biderman believes that this causes many women to have affairs starting the day after the holiday. Are we less tolerant of sexless marriages? Are uncommon arrangements becoming more common? Do you think crummy Mother's Days may lead to more cheating?
I didn’t want to be a stripper.
Really, I have no idea what I wanted from the exotic dance class I’d
enrolled in at an adult education center. I didn’t know whether the
course catalog’s promise to help “create a full repertoire of
floor-routine and chair moves you can use in enticing performances” was
an achievable or even worthwhile goal. But there I was in a leotard
and stilettos, undulating my hips against an inert and perfectly
innocent chair.
The first order of business on day one was to pick our stripper
names. The gaggle of married lady friends in matching pink leotards
seemed to be in a geographical mood, seeing as how they chose names
like Savannah, Sierra and Asia. The mousy woman recently dumped by her
boyfriend chose Sexy Sadie because it was her ex’s favorite Beatles
song. The pretty but uptight Indian woman apparently didn’t grasp the
smutty aspect of the renaming process because she replaced her
A review of Deborah Sundahl's amazing book "Female Ejaculation and the G-spot". Have you experienced G-spot orgasms or female ejaculation? If not, find out how. If so, learn how to improve!
School sex education covers reproduction and how to stay safe, but it doesn't tell you the things you really need to know. How do you get a real sex education?
Female sexuality isn't well understood, even by scientists: examining the biology of arousal.
Female sexuality isn't well understood, even by scientists: examining the biology of arousal. Meredith Chivers uses evolutionary biology to explain why women's bodies and minds are turned on by different things. Lisa Diamond believes that women's sexuality is much more flexible than is generally understood, and that women are more turned on by emotional intimacy. Marta Meana works on the theory that female lust hinges on narcissism—that is, being desired. Are any of them right? No one knows.
