to the YourTango newsletter!

FIND AN EXPERT
Advanced SearchAmy Robbins-WilsonDavid SteeleCatherine Behan

FANTASIZE

Couple Kissing with eyes closed

Is He Imagining Someone Else During Sex?

If his eyes are closed...is he enjoying you or thinking about another woman?

Dear Mouthy Housewives, I noticed that when my boyfriend and I are intimate, he keeps his eyes closed. Do you think that means he's fantasizing about other women? Signed, Insecure

Help! I Dreamt I Cheated with My Ex

Help! I Dreamt I Cheated with My Ex

I t’s not just men who have wet dreams—women have sex dreams too. Some dreams get so hot and heavy women can achieve orgasm; hopefully she remembers when she wakes up… Your ex is apart of your life and it’s natural for you to remember and reflect on any good sex you might have once had.

left-handed underpants

The Links: Left-Handed Underpants & Tucker Max

Who's dateable? When a lady tries "The Game." And more robot sex.

Left-handed underwear for men. How many people are really dateable? When he fantasizes about someone else? A Tucker Max anecdote from the other side. A woman tries using the rules of The Game. A righteous advocate for sexual education. A robotic, German sex doll. Is a lady from LA better than NY? A partial vaccine for HIV. And more about being the outside spoon.

george clooney

If I Had To Choose My Husband Or George Clooney…

My husband may not be perfect but I'll take him over George Clooney any day.

He’s twice been named the Sexiest Man Alive. He makes more money in memorizing ten lines than my husband makes all year. In another century, his ravishing good looks and muscular physique were undoubtedly the criteria that all Greek Gods set for themselves. Still he remains the boy next door that every woman in the world would love to call her very own. I’m talking about George Clooney—the Buttery Hotness himself. Nevertheless, I turned him down, even though he never asked. I turned him down, straight as an arrow. Here's why.

How To Have Sex In Public

How To Have Sex In Public

A guide to quickies outdoors or in a bar can be quite fun.

Seventy percent of both women and men fantasize about it. Some are turned on by the risk of getting caught; others simply want the novelty of taking the bedroom show on the road. You may want a springtime romp in a field of flowers or a quickie in a bar bathroom, but in the end, sex in public—like real estate—is all about one thing: location location location.

sex life fantasy

Infusing Fantasy Into Your Sex Life

Act out fantasies together because imagination enhances our sex lives.

Some couples play dress-up even when it’s not Halloween; imagining different people and scenarios while making love can invigorate your sex life—or it can make you feel a little creepy. How do you get the best from your fantasies? Here’s a guide to navigating your sexual imaginations. "From picturing the hottie in Accounts Payable naked, to role-playing, to thinking about other people or circumstances while masturbating or having sex, people often use fantasies to augment their lovemaking. In fact, there are women who can achieve orgasm merely by conjuring that philanthropist/mailman/pool boy/plumber in their heads. (Seriously. And they're being studied.) Even if you're not blessed with that ability, research has shown that women's orgasms are in some ways more tied to mental gymnastics than to anything that's happening in the physical world. 'In women, the vast majority of sex is going on in their minds,' explains Dr. Anita H. Clayton, a professor in the Department of Psychiatric Medicine at the University of Virginia and author of an upcoming book about the relationship between sex and the psyche. 'So we can be easily distracted or shift into another set of feelings very quickly.'"