Call it a Mr. Mom backlash. For couples eschewing stereotypical division of household duties, sharing responsibility isn't about role reversal; it's about role sharing and thinking like teammates or co-pilots instead of gender-bending pioneers. The New York Times Magazine's cover story this coming Sunday (already available online) profiles several families where designated "mom" and "dad" duties don't exist, at least not as society generally defines them.
The husband and the in-laws—they can be a combustible combination. Introducing your boyfriend to your parents and family is difficult no matter what, especially if you're Jewish and he's not and your parents don't want you marrying a goy. But interfaith marriage doesn't have to be all bad, as Amy Sohn learned. In this excerpt from her book Altared, Amy shares her personal account of finding the one and then trying to sell him to her parents.
Forget having either a family or a career says publishing powerhouse Bonnie Fuller. Have both. Keep in mind that you may have to cut corners here and there. But it's all possible. Just be honest about expectations and don't let all the details drive you crazy.
More and more people are finding themselves engaged in "nontraditional" relationships; which leaves the traditional definition of family (a heterosexual couple marrying to have children) increasingly ambiguous. Here Susan Piver wonders whether the absence of a child is indicative of the absence of family with couples.
"Bruce would not want us to wallow in our grief, and I always hear him … His voice is always there saying, 'Get on with it.' There was a saying that I loved, and that he loved, by Robert Frost: 'In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life: it goes on.'" Actress Blythe Danner publicly discusses the loss of her husband Bruce for the first time.
The author's generation fought to have careers as well as families. Now, more and more young mothers are opting to raise their kids full time. But what happens when a husband leaves, gets laid off, or dies? Leslie Bennetts makes the case for keeping the day job. "I spent many years establishing a rewarding professional life before having two children — just as my biological clock was winding down—and ever since then I've felt as though I won the lottery. A great career! A wonderful husband! Two beautiful, healthy children! Lucky me! Imagine my surprise, then, to learn that Having It All—the quintessential goal of recent generations of women—has gone out of fashion. Who knew?"