Holidays are prime time for out-of-town family to show up on your doorstep – or for you to appear on theirs. You might think that sharing space with mom, dad, or siblings will put quite a damper on your sex-life, but it actually doesn’t have to cramp your style. In fact, those “walls with ears” can even set the scene for a hotter happy holiday. Here's how.
Between selecting the perfect gift, booking expensive flights and dealing with the in-laws, the holidays are stressful, and, unfortunately, the closest target for those frustrations is often one's partner. Here are ten common holiday fights couples have during the holidays and how to avoid them.
Here’s one of the best-kept secrets: Holiday time is difficult for most of us. At this time of year there’s an unspoken pressure to look and feel happy even if we aren’t. Family problems take center stage as we gather with relatives to celebrate. We’re reminded of holidays past when we may have lost loved ones or had other intense personal difficulties with which to contend. Need I say more? The folks I counsel seem to be struggling with the holidays this year more than ever. There are a few reasons for this:
The Question I promised to focus on this week is: How can I avoid getting into an unhealthy relationship? I have to giggle at that one as I am writing today. I don't know about you but in my experience many of us were BORN into unhealthy relationships! That said I know that for the most part as adults, we get to choose the relationships we want to engage in. When it comes to romantic relationships we have 100% control. It is that type of relationship I am going to address today.
Buy, buy, buy. I cringed that the verb was dominating my Christmas to-do list, and it wasn't even December yet. Looking back on my childhood, I remember magical moments with my family more than I remember specific gifts. I want my kids to have these kinds of memories, too, and not just a solid lesson in materialism...
by Meagan McCrary Being invited home for the holidays by your beau is a major step in a relationship. But meeting the fam for the first time can be intimidating, especially if you’re staying with them. Follow these seemingly-obvious-but-too-often-forgotten guidelines for surviving the holidays with your boyfriend’s family. After all, there could be a lot more to come. Do: Bring something. Don’t: Bring your mom’s famous turkey stuffing.
Whether you've been dating for weeks or years, the first holiday meal you spend at his family's house is unnerving. Hopefully, you've met his family before this big day, though maybe you haven't. Regardless, the premiere Thanksgiving at his parents' house is an entirely new adventure — who knows what you're walking into?
This Thanksgiving, we are thankful to be single women. We are thankful for our friends, family, independence and more.
Ahh, Thanksgiving. A time of turkey, travel, tryptophan, and repeated viewings of "A Christmas Story" surrounded by family. If you're coupled up in a relationship, you boo is probably in the picture, too, and perhaps-awkwardly negotiating an overnight bedroom situation.
It started with a small idea. A client sat down in my office, sharing her concerns for how she could impart her valuable life experiences to her child; and better, how could she do it in a way that would preserve her voice, in the chance that she didn’t live long enough to share it day by day and year after year. While she happened to be an older mother, she did, for all intents and purposes, have plenty of time to educate her daughter and share her wealth of knowledge.
I was 12 the first time my aunt asked me over Thanksgiving dinner if I had a boyfriend yet. Twelve. I was two years away from my first "official" date, and six years away from losing my virginity on the bottom bunk of a dorm room at Keene State College. So no, Auntie Franny, I don't have a boyfriend.
Pretty soon, we'll all sit around a table with loved ones, break bread and share what we are most thankful for this year. But as the season kicks off, there are some stresses that we don't feel grateful for -- like the challenge of dating during the holidays.
For as much as my family members love one another, sitting down to Thanksgiving dinner can feel not only like a feast, but also a battle. There are ups, there are downs, and we always feel like we’re in one and others’ territories. This is natural and inevitable, because with the fun of seeing your family also comes the stress of hosting guests or being a guest, crowded kitchens and living rooms, arguments over the responsibility/privilege/annoyance of who gets to cook which part of the meal, and the inevitable debate over football vs. parade on TV.
It is amazing how many of my clients limit themselves in their dreams because they do not have any idea of HOW they will achieve them. The reality is: When you gain clarity on WHAT you want, the HOW will show up. What do you want? Write out one specific goal you would like to achieve Outline: What will MY goal look like when I accomplish it Imagine you were to take a picture of your life when you have accomplished this goal, what will be happening, who will be there?
With the divorce rate being what it is these days, marriage definitely isn't something to take lightly. After all, most of us aren't anything like a certain reality star whose reputation is currently at major risk for her speedy marital shenanigans. Most of us want to be completely sure we're compatible with our potential life partner before zipping down the aisle.