As Divine Caroline's You.Propelled campaign continues to support the big payouts that come through small changes, I started thinking about passion and how the lack of it can be such a hugely divisive, distancing factor in a relationship. So, here's a bell-and-whistle-free fix for putting you in the mood.

Whether it's thumbing through the sleaziest romance novel at the grocery store or discreetly Googling plot synopses of X-rated movies, one of the easiest ways to enhance your love life right now is to simply read—and let your imagination run wild.
Sex guides and toys be damned, I … Read More

Jennifer (name changed) didn't have sex with her ex-husband on their wedding night. "I chalked it up to fatigue," she says. But should it have been a red flag? Well, maybe. Read: 12 Relationship Red Flags

It's not that it didn't happen that one night that was the problem; it's that it was the first of many sexless married nights. As an engaged couple, Jennifer and her fiancé were doing it about three times a week, but once they said their vows, it quickly dwindled to about once a month—sometimes less.

Some experts call marriages that average 10 … Read More

Certain words I dread ("We need to schedule two more dental appointments") while others I would kill to hear ("Ann Coulter's physician confirms sex-change operation").

And then there are statements that defy imagination, such as; "My husband gave me the greatest birthday present last night—a public flogging." I actually overheard one of my exotic dance students say these exact words last week.

Now, I'm not exactly unfamiliar with the BDSM scene. My education began a few years ago, while browsing the aisles of my favorite sex shop. A man came up to me and asked, "Are you a Dom or … Read More

If a woman's sexual fantasies involve degradation, domination—rape, even—is she anti-feminist, disturbed or worse? When does sex become "dirty," and does writing erotic fiction involving humiliation mean the author is a sex-crazed, pain-loving looney? From Best Sex Writing 2009 (Cleis Press, edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel), Kristina Lloyd's essay "The Pleasure of Unpleasure" explores the delicate relationship between fantasy and reality, the risk of bringing private thoughts public and gives a glimpse into the life of an erotica writer.

All writers get bad reviews. If you write erotica, your sexuality gets reviewed as well. Trust … Read More

Friend-of-YourTango Rachel Kramer Bussel is on one of our favorite blogs, TheFrisky, giving an interview about.....drumroll, please!......Sarah Palin erotica.

We've already established some people think Palin is hot.  (Others are driven wild by her First Dude!)  An enterprising Bussel, an erotica writer and former sex columnist for The Village Voice, started the web site, Sarah Palin Erotica, to quench that polar bear-sized thirst.

Here's Bussel's response on why people are so hot for the Alaskan governor:

I think first it was because of her looks, but almost immediately her story, wild … Read More

I hear "romance novel" and a few things spring immediately to mind: Fabio, bad prose and women sitting in La-Z-Boys, smoking Virginia Slims in their housecoats. I'm not talking about soapy chick lit or emotional love tales, like those that Nicholas Sparks writes. I'm talking about the kind that use verbs like throbbing and aching and feature topless hunks on the cover.

Kara's Porn for Women No girl-on-girl pics here. One of the few sites targeted to heterosexual women, it has a small collection of stories, primarily involving consensual, one-on-one intercourse and oral sex. A collection of links points to stories with more slightly more diversity, but still with hetero women in mind. It also has articles, book reviews and pictures. Free Best Sex Stories This site has a large collection of stories with a range themes and an intuitive interface, so you can quickly click on what you're looking for, whether it's erotic poetry or anal … Read More

Whenever Abby traveled, she bought books. It was somehow more exciting to discover an interesting book when she was far from home, even the same exact book she might find in a bookstore in her own town.