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Male Take: When He Can't Get An Erection

No erection? What to say when he can't get it up.

When a man can't get it up, the experience for him and his partner falls somewhere between awkward and utterly mortifying—I've even heard of men not calling women back because they were so ashamed of their inability to keep it up. So what can a woman say or do when her man can't get an erection? Here are five things you can say to help make the best of the situation. Because men are so sensitive about it, and because it's about as embarrassing a moment as he can experience, it puts the woman in a really tough spot. Of course you just want to say, "Honey, is there something I can do to help?" But in some cases, that's exactly what he doesn't want to hear. He's thinking, "No, I'm just dying from the pressure here, and the last thing I want you to do is even notice, much less try to help!" Even worse is if you say, "Is there something wrong?" or "Are you okay?"—because, yes, there obviously is something wrong (you don't have to remind me!) and, no, I'm clearly not OK, I'm flaccid! So what can a woman say or do when her man can't rev up the engines? Here are a few possibilities, but know that any one of these can backfire too, depending on the circumstances. But, in order of most likely to go over well, here are five ways you can say to help make the best of the situation.

Why Do Older Men Get ED?

Why Do Older Men Get ED?

One woman wonders why men lose their erections as they age. Is it more than just stress?

So, erectile dysfunction. Ever been with a guy who can't get it up? How do you feel? Embarrassed? Frustrated? Guilty? Or maybe just miffed? Today on Nerve's Date Machine Airheadgenius posts about how as she gets older she encounters more and more men whose penises aren't getting hard, and she wonders why.

The Hard Life Of The Male Porn Star

The Hard Life Of The Male Porn Star

A male porn star lists seven reasons he hates his job.

Job dissatisfaction is pretty common. Numbers vary, but between according to Forbes.com in 2005, up to 87% of people were unhappy at work; in 2007 LiveScience put the number at over 50%; and earlier this year MarketWatch reported that only 9% of people liked their job so much they'd marry it. So job dissatisfaction is rampant, even male porn stars are in on the career-hating action! Today we learn, via Debauchette, 7 Reasons Why It Sucks to Be A Male Porn Star. Watch out, that link is NSFW, so we'll bring you the highlights below.

Cialis OK To Take Everyday: FDA

The Eli Lilly ED drug is as safe as Levitra and Viagra for everyday use.

Now Cialis can consider themselves the equals of Viagra and Levitra. They are any everyday ED remedy. Good times for impotent men.