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6 Surprising Habits That Could Hurt A Man's Sex Life

Biking, snoring and other factors that could lead to erectile dysfunction.

In the past, erectile dysfunction — which affects 20-30 million American men — has been chalked up to factors like anxiety, stress, smoking and bad hygiene. While Viagra and other pills can offer a solution, there's something else men can do to ensure they perform better in bed: check their habits.

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Why Can't He Perform? Understanding Erectile Dysfunction

Men experience erectile dysfunction for a host of psychological and physical reasons.

Picture this: You're in the middle of a fierce makeout session and reach down to grab what you expect will be a hard, throbbing erection. Instead, your hand is met with a disappointingly soft penis. Or maybe he's got an erection now, but loses it before you can actually get busy. Sure, what goes up must—eventually—come down, but so soon? Your first thought is probably, "Why can't he get it up? Isn't he attracted to me?"

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Want To Know His Penis Size? Look At His Fingers

Study says ratio between index and ring finger correlates to the size of a man's package.

Ladies, there's no need to get into his pants (or receive a naughty picture message) in order to gauge the size of his package. And forget that old wives tale about the size of his shoes. Instead, just take a look at the length of his fingers.

How To NOT Get An Erection

How To NOT Get An Erection

Some men & women still don't realize: both physical & mental stimulation are necessary for erection.

Sex Therapy can be complicated. Fortunately, sometimes it isn’t. About three months ago my patient Sam finally started dating again after his wife left him last summer. After a few nondescript experiences, he met Yolanda, they hit it off, and a few weeks later he found himself in bed with her. Two days later he came in for his weekly session. Five minutes before it ended, he mentioned how he couldn’t “y’know” when he wanted to “y’know.”

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Will New "Viagra Condoms" Make Safe Sex More Appealing?

A new type of condom helps maintain a man's erection.

For years, manufacturers have gamely attempted to make condoms more fun to use, but alas, even the most delectably flavored varieties don't compensate for that sterile, rubbery sensation. Now, a British biotech firm has taken on the challenge by developing the CSD500, a condom that prolongs a man's erection — hence its unofficial nickname, the "Viagra condom."

Keeping an Erection During Oral Sex

Keeping an Erection During Oral Sex

Pharmaceutical companies would love you to pop a pill to solve your limp ways, this isn't necessary.

Question: The last time I was getting oral sex I lost my erection and now it happens often. Why does this happen and what can I do to stop it? This can be a very common experience. As rapidly as blood engorges your penis to make it erect, the blood can just as quickly drain away leaving you limp. In fact, many men also lose their erections during sexual intercourse.

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Judy Blume: Crucial Sex Education For Young Girls

In a time before the internet, Judy Blume was all the sex education we needed.

As a young girl—ovaries yet to ripen and hymen still in intact—reading Judy Blume books were like porn for me … educational porn. These were the pre-internet days, before I could Google "funny feeling down there" or "penis, hard-on." All I had was my imagination and my canon of Judy Blume books to aid my highly curious pre-teen mind. They were a permanent Sharpie mark on my burgeoning deviant mind.

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Male Take: When He Can't Get An Erection

No erection? What to say when he can't get it up.

When a man can't get it up, the experience for him and his partner falls somewhere between awkward and utterly mortifying—I've even heard of men not calling women back because they were so ashamed of their inability to keep it up. So what can a woman say or do when her man can't get an erection? Here are five things you can say to help make the best of the situation. Because men are so sensitive about it, and because it's about as embarrassing a moment as he can experience, it puts the woman in a really tough spot. Of course you just want to say, "Honey, is there something I can do to help?" But in some cases, that's exactly what he doesn't want to hear. He's thinking, "No, I'm just dying from the pressure here, and the last thing I want you to do is even notice, much less try to help!" Even worse is if you say, "Is there something wrong?" or "Are you okay?"—because, yes, there obviously is something wrong (you don't have to remind me!) and, no, I'm clearly not OK, I'm flaccid! So what can a woman say or do when her man can't rev up the engines? Here are a few possibilities, but know that any one of these can backfire too, depending on the circumstances. But, in order of most likely to go over well, here are five ways you can say to help make the best of the situation.

Sexlets Gum Helps Men Perform

Sexlets Gum Helps Men Perform

Hey fellas—want to pack more punch? Pop a Sexlet!

If you've got a slight (secret) libido problem and too much pride to ask for Viagra, fear not. The scientific powers that be have dreamt up a product that's perfect for your garden variety, below-the-belt limpy—erection-enhancing chewing gum! Sexlets officially hits the market in a few weeks.

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The Best Of The Web: Getting Freaky And Nicknames

A lady politician cheats, pick-up lines and Bikram Yoga.

A good cry from The Wonder Years. Letting your freak flag fly. Interesting vaginas. Did Britney Spears break up? 8 steps to wreck a relationship. Bikram Yoga can produce better erections. Some pick-up lines for 2010. Renaming lady blue balls. Nicknaming your dudes. Dumping dudes because they're not perfect, a reflections. Thoughts on Big Love.

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Plastic Compound BPA May Cause Sexual Problems

Erectile dysfunction linked to the plastic compound Bisphenol-A (BPA).

A recent study out of China theorizes that exposure to BPA—Bisphenol-A, a plastic-making compound—might be one of the reasons why men suffer from erectile dysfunction.