Passionate Compatibility Part 2 ~ Compassion. Are you a Safe Haven Maven or a Communication Stopper?
Recently, my son and his long-time girlfriend, with whom I had a close relationship, broke up and although these things happen usually for the best, I couldn’t help but feel saddened by the news. I could not imagine just letting her slip out of my life as if she had never been there and mattered, so I decided to give her a compassion call.
Well, according to some, you would have thought that this was absolutely the worst imaginable decision I could have ever made!
I heard things like this:
Overcome depression by incorporating these 5 traits into your everyday mindset.
When someone is depressed, they feel like there is nothing in the world that can make things better. When someone seeks help from a mental health professional, they are looking for something that is going to make it better. Whether this is medication or some type of inner discovery, there is still usually something missing. When someone is depressed it may be harder for them to tap into the discovery of themselves.
Just as you can't judge a film by one scene, you can't judge a person by one hurtful thing he does.
Perhaps we've all had an intimate partner who has said or done things to us that seem simply unforgivable. Can you remember a circumstance where you spoke hurtful or hateful words, and later recognized that you did not really mean them? The context of your life affected the content of what you said. Maybe you were tired, afraid, angry, stressed, or feeling hurt. In that moment you just had to defend yourself, get some space, work through anxiety, or vent some frustration.
New research shows that if a person can't move her face to empathize, her relationship may suffer.
Let's be honest: Botox has become the butt of many jokes. But it was just a few harmless jabs, right? Wrong! New research indicates these injections are no laughing matter. By pumping the substance into your system, you may not be able to empathize. And if you can't undersand your partner's feelings, rocky-relationship territory could be ahead.
When it comes to sex, empathy helps guys do it better.
Conventional dating wisdom may claim that women think with their heads while men think with their man-parts, but new research from Johns Hopkins suggests that we're being a little harsh on the male species. According to a study published in the Journal of Adolescent Health, the majority of sexually satisfied men also possess a high amount of empathy. Take that to heart, nice guys.
The 9 signs of narcissism and whether to stay or leave him.
With shows like The Pickup Artist remaining perennially popular, it seems that male narcissism is flourishing if not becoming epidemic while being fueled by our culture and the media. While egomaniacs may make for irritating but good TV, they can have a truly destructive impact on the lives of their loved ones. A Chicago Tribune article about dating narcissists offered some handy tips on how to diagnose and, more importantly, decide to live with (or leave) a narcissist. The American Psychological Association lists nine core traits of narcissism, but someone only needs five of these to qualify for Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). Yay!
Apologizing and empathy could have saved Barney, Russell and Charlie some hard times.
Sure, not every relationship lesson can be taken from CBS's Monday night lineup, but some good ones can. The lads on How I Met Your Mother, Two And A Half Men and Rules Of Engagement all got in hot water over one-night stands. They could benefit from a little bit of apologizing. Maybe they didn't think they did anything wrong? In that case a little empathy will grease the wheels of that apology.
According to a recent study by Northwestern researchers, musicians hear the emotion in sounds more than non-musicians. This means a flat and pissed off, "nothing's wrong, thanks" will have a harder time passing the trained guitar strummer's ears than say, an aloof blogger, who may just take you on face value and continue thinking of alternate words for "relationship." An interdisciplinary Northwestern research team rounded up a group of musicians and non-musicians and had them watch a nature film with the sounds of a child's distressed cry in the background. Both parties were measured by scalp electrodes, and the musicians were much better at discerning "the complex" emotional part of the child's cry while also immediately ignoring other sounds that didn't matter. This was not the case in non-musicians. "Quickly and accurately identifying emotion in sound is a skill that translates across all arenas, whether in the predator-infested jungle or in the classroom, boardroom or bedroom," says Dana Strait, primary author of the study.
I've always felt a little aloof, a little apathetic. It's as if I missed the chapter on how to deal with others' emotions. Turns out, it's a disorder. Well, psychotherapist Douglas LaBier thinks so, at least. He was quoted in this CNN article on the subject.
The writer detailed personal interactions, and LaBier diagnosed her. Ok, so you're a little cold. Big deal, right? Well, LaBier says EDD causes everything from war to divorce. Ack!
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