When you think of the word "sexy" you probably conjure media-friendly images that include smooth skin, shiny hair and a tight body, all in a package whose expiration date is in the second half of this millennium. But, glossy magazine pages and summer blockbusters aside, young people don't have a monopoly on sexiness. 5 Reasons To Grow Old With Someone

A long life gives a person time to cultivate self-knowledge, acceptance of his flaws and appreciation for her strengths. Crest-white-stripped teeth and a spray-tanned bod can create superficial beauty, but you can't fake decades of experience.  With this in … Read More

Not long ago, Ira Rosofsky, a psychologist specializing in elder care, was asked to treat a nursing home resident for masturbating in front of an aide. Rather than treat the elder, however, Rosofsky took issue with the nursing home. As he saw it (and explains it in today's LA Times), the resident had no choice in the matter. The facility, after all, had no privacy. Open doors were the norm. Closed doors were treated with suspician. And staff members routinely entered residents' rooms without knocking.

Under the circumstances, Rosofsky thought it was inevitable that a staff member would, sooner … Read More

We live in a youth-obsessed society, where knowing that Miley Cyrus has achieved international stardom and success—and she was born in 1992—can make us feel like our most precious years are slipping away. But growing old is not something to fear.

On Monday The New York Times' "The New Old Age" blog published a piece called "6 Reasons To Grow Old," based on advice from Joshua O. Haberman, a 90-year-old rabbi. Sure, your skin may sag, your hands may shake, but growing old comes with great benefits—especially if you have someone to share your time with. Based on … Read More

Her eyes stared in listless reverie at the tiled floor of her room as a nursing assistant stopped in to empty the wastebasket. He chatted brightly with the silent woman as he straightened the bed; her glance never left the floor. Refilling her water pitcher, he left the room, saying he'd be back to bring her to dinner in an hour.

Her daughter Anne, my girlfriend, released the gentle grasp she had on her mother's hand, and fumbled inside her purse for the CD she had brought with her: a collection of songs that she and her mother had listened … Read More

Is there a time and place for white lies in your relationship? The LoveFeed has the answer. LoveFeed is YourTango's daily round-up of love, sex and relationship news and trends. 

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Sex gets better as you age. One psychologist and life coach "frequently hears from clients that the sex they are having as a senior citizen is the best they have ever had." [WYFF4.com]

The pros and cons of dressing down for a night at the bar. [College Candy]

10 Reasons to hate Valentine's Day. [Marie Claire via Shine]

You're never too old to tie the knot. Need proof? A 107-year-old never-married Chinese woman is looking for a husband. "I'm already 107 and I still haven't got married," she told a local newspaper. "What will happen if I don't hurry up and find a husband?"Wang Guiying isn't single for lack of suitors—she avoided married because she saw how difficult it was for other women in her family. "I often found my uncle's wife crying in the woodshed after an attack. All the married people around there lived like that. Getting married was too frightening," she said. Staying single … Read More

Yesterday's New York Times Modern Love column was by Alix Kates Shulman, author of To Love What Is: A Marriage Transformed. Shulman, an elderly woman, is the primary caretaker of her husband, who lost his short-term memory and his ability to function alone, when he was injured in a fall four years ago. Tango interviewed Shulman a few weeks ago; you can watch the video here and read our Q&A (not the same as the video) here.

In yesterday's Times, Shulman wrote about her husband's belief that he was having an affair with … Read More

"Should we renew grandpa's subscription to Playboy?," I ask my husband, as I stand in my kitchen staring at the crisp white letter with "RENEW NOW" stamped next to two shimmering stickers promising free gifts. The stickers feature buxom blondes, their hands, complete with acrylic finger nails, are covering their nipples, but sadly—in my opinion—not their overly inflated fake breasts.

"Of course," he replies, followed by a wink. "You know he loves it," he says of my 84-year-old grandfather.

Of course, I do. How could I ever forget the Saturday afternoon last fall when I discovered my grandpa's secret vice: porn.

It … Read More

Seniors turning to internet dating is actually a trend that makes a lot of sense. Seriously, where is an old guy (or gal) going to meet an old gal (or guy)? The discotheque is probably out. College or high school doesn't really work. And forget about the gym. What does that leave? Church? The market? The speakeasy? The old swimming hole? The five-and-dime? The International House Of Pancakes? Sure, you can go to the senior center but that place feels like that's the Cancun of mature living. Yeah, you can probably go home with someone after putting on a … Read More