Yesterday's episode of The Revolution on ABC was all about "jumpstarting your sex life." When the conversation turned to how 15 to 20 percent of people are in no sex or low sex relationships, and the knee-jerk reaction was "That's saaaad," Tim Gunn interjected and admitted that he's been celibate — and is NO SEX, absolutely none! — for 29 YEARS.
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In part one of this video series, Dating & Relationship Expert and YourTango Expert, Lori Pinkerton counseled one of her real clients: an incredible businesswoman named Deborah, 59, who's been single for the past 6 years while focusing solely on her career.
Despite the fact that there is a greater openness about sex today, and sexuality itself seems to be a popular topic on television, too many women and men have very little knowledge about their own bodies and how to use them for sexual pleasure. For this reason, you and your partner might want to seek the help of a sex therapist.
OK, so the guys aren't lining up around the block, and perhaps you find yourself at home—in front of the television. Rest assured, there are plenty of single guys on TV to sink your teeth into. So grab the remote, settle in, and find a great guy that will never cancel on you (um, unless the network steps in…). Sunday: Patrick Jane, The Mentalist (CBS, 9 PM). Played by Simon Baker, Jane is a weird, quirky never-plays-by-the-rules kind of guy who serves as a consultant to California Bureau of Investigation. He's like Monk—but extremely attractive. Monday: Damon Salvatore, Vampire Diaries (The CW, 9PM). Everyone seems to want to date his brother, but we're more interested in the dark, brooding (and sometimes evil) older sibling. Vampires Make Better Boyfriends
There comes a time in every woman's life when she finds herself blissfully boyfriend-less. Which is why it's imperative to have an arsenal of testosterone at your disposal. The platonic male friend with no sexual tension, the platonic male friend with sexual tension, the gay friend, the out of town flirt buddy.
Dry spells happen to the best of us. The only difference between you and that chick who says she never has them, is that she’s a fib-teller and you aren’t. So congrats. Lack of sex can be the result of anything. Perhaps the cruel planets have aligned in such a way that your sexiness has become astrologically veiled. Work is crazy and the thought of putting on lip-gloss and nice underwear just makes you tired. Or you've decided everyone you found tasty in the past is Satan-spawn and you're doing your vengeful part by not even allowing eye contact by possible suitors, let alone roaming hands. Ick. Whatever the reason, it doesn't matter. But we're here to tell you: ENJOY. Similar to a bad case of the flu or a never-ending winter, soon the clouds will part, the sun will shine, and you'll be back to dodging phone calls and figuring out creative ways to break-up it off again. You'll see.
How does someone end up not having sex for 15 years? By accident, swears writer Kit Naylor on Salon.com. We've all had dry spells, but man, 15 years is one hell of a dry spell! Naylor is a middleaged woman, a self-described recluse with two cats and no kids. She calls herself "a spinster long past my sell-by date." Spinster! We think that's a sexist way to refer to herself, but nevertheless, we admire how she got that way: she wants to be in love to make love. It seems that by eschewing casual sex and being committed to personal integrity, she's condemning herself to accidental celibacy.
