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Behind the fetish: How BDSM makes one woman feel like a virgin.
I thought I'd had "rough sex" before; I'd been spanked on my butt plenty of times, had my hair pulled, even been caned once while strung up with my hands over my head. That hurt, and I cried, and I liked it, because I'm submissive like that, but it was just a one-time thing. I'd had plenty of encounters with talking dirty, spinning all sorts of nasty fantasies, where, most of the time, I was on the receiving end of some very hot epithets. But I'd never wanted to be choked until I got together with the … Read More
It's all fun and games until someone gets shot in the chest.
There's nothing wrong with a hot-n-heavy game of dirty cowboy. And according to Deborah Yvette Parker, that's all she and her commonlaw husband, Broderick Craig Crachian, were partaking in when he died of an accidental gunshot wound to the chest. I Wanna Be A Cowboy (& You Can Be My Cowgirl)
Describing her as "extremely distraught," Parker's court-appointed attorney, Murray Newman, explained to the Houston Chronicle that: "She loves him, and this is just a terrible accident. My understanding is she was one hundred percent cooperative with the police and very forthcoming in everything she told them."
Among … Read More
Desperate Housewives star admits to BDSM sex fantasies, but does that make her "raunchy?"
"What's that Eva? You want me to do you HOW?" might be an appropriate speech bubble coming out of Tony Parker's mouth in the accompanying photograph.
According to The Sun's "Best Sex Ever" survey of "A-List celebs," the answer for Desperate Housewives star Eva Longoria, it seems, is to be tied up with silk scarves during love making. Why We Fantasize And What's Normal
Eva, 34, said: "I’m not averse to being tied up with silk scarves, I like a man to take charge. There’s something very sexy about being submissive."
But Eva isn't fetishizing alone. That … Read More
Porn, threesomes and loneliness: understanding male sexuality.
Ever typed a web address into the computer you share with your husband and seen it automatically fill in a suspiciously sexy url? Do you have an ex-boyfriend who talked incessantly about a threesome with your best friend from college? Are you familiar with the phrase "male intimacy issues"? Dr. Michael Bader unpacks these situations and more in his new book, Male Sexuality: Why Women Don't Understand It—And Men Don't Either.
The psychologist and psychoanalyst has been practicing his trade in San Francisco for 30 years. About 10 years ago he realized that therapists "were supposed to … Read More
Revealing deep dark desires opens an erotica writer's sexuality to judgment.
If a woman's sexual fantasies involve degradation, domination—rape, even—is she anti-feminist, disturbed or worse? When does sex become "dirty," and does writing erotic fiction involving humiliation mean the author is a sex-crazed, pain-loving looney? From Best Sex Writing 2009 (Cleis Press, edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel), Kristina Lloyd's essay "The Pleasure of Unpleasure" explores the delicate relationship between fantasy and reality, the risk of bringing private thoughts public and gives a glimpse into the life of an erotica writer.
All writers get bad reviews. If you write erotica, your sexuality gets reviewed as well. Trust … Read More
A Canadian professor has recently woke from a three day coma. He was put...
That sounds like a headline from the National Inquirer, right? Nah brah, it was the front page of the New York Post. A recently retired professor from Montreal is recovering from an oxygen deprivation-induced coma. The implementation of that oxygen deprivation? It was probably the dog collar or the suspension above the ground. But may have also been the nipple clamps or the hood he was wearing. Intrigued?
Long story short, a retired professor from Montreal, Canada was really into S&M. He would make trips to New York to visit dominatrices (what's the … Read More
S&M pracitioners tend to be highly educated and other facts you may not know.
Even if you're not sure what S&M or BDSM actually entails, the letters alone probably conjure up vivid images: Whips and chains, leather and latex, a tubby guy named The Gimp tugging on his leash as he hungrily eyes Bruce Willis in Pulp Fiction. It's common to assume that sadism-and-masochism enthusiasts are at best unusual or shocking and at worst downright depraved. But are they really?
Well, The Gimp certainly is—living in a locked crate in the basement of a pawnshop will do that to you. And anecdotal evidence does suggest that S&M enthusiasts differ from"normal" people in … Read More
