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What would happen at work if… 1. You repeatedly showed up late. 2. You consistently neglected your responsibilities. 3. You ignored your primary tasks because you tried to do everything yourself. If you committed these infractions at work, your employer would have cause for dismissal.
Who doesn't want a healthy and satisfying sex life? And yet, a substantial and growing percentage of people struggle with low libido and sexual dysfunction issues. Overcoming this challenge in order to benefit from the many emotional and physical benefits of lovemaking should be on the top of your list when you consider that hundreds of major medical studies correlate an active sex life with a longer life, better heart health, a healthier immune response, reduction in chronic pain symptoms, lower rates of depression and even protection against some cancers.
Expressing your pleasure through sound initiates a primal place in your brain. “How silver-sweet sound lovers’ tongues by night, Like softest music to attending ears!” -William Shakespeare Remember the hushed make-out sessions of your youth? Rarely did we allow ourselves to sound out our pleasure lest our parents would hear. For many of us, not wanting others to hear any evidence of our intimate encounters still carries some left over shame that keeps a heavy lid on our ability to experience our own pleasure decades later. After our parents, it was the neighbors, after the neighbors, it was the kids….
According to a recent study published in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, researchers suggest there’s a link between a man’s motivation to mate and his interest or support in war.
Are women having orgasms in bed? Men seem to think so. According to the National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior, 85 percent of men believe their partner climaxed during their most recent love-making session. If that's the case, women everywhere deserve a shot at an Oscars for their in-bed acting abilities. Because, according to the very same NSSHB study cited above, only 64 percent of women reported reaching orgasm during their most recent sexual event—which means that the other 21 percent are most likely faking it. What's more, an online survey over at SkinnyScoop.com reveals that a whopping 80 percent of women would prefer a massage to sex with their partner. This doesn't seem all that shocking to me. On most days, I'd prefer a box of Cheez-its to another round of unsatisfying sex.
YourTango and Zestra want to help separate myth from fact, so we've put together a survey to find out how much people know about female sexual pleasure. Help us out by taking the survey—it'll take about five minutes. Then check YourTango later this month to see the results.
Given that springtime is notoriously mating season for us mammals, we've teamed up with our friends at Glo and Chemisty.com, as well as biological anthropologist Helen Fisher, Ph.D., to launch a survey to help us find out what really attracts people to a potential mate, and, perhaps more importantly, what keeps those fires burning year after year. Help us by clicking the link below and filling out the questions that follow. We'll be posting the results soon.
As indicated in my blogger tagline, wellness is also a topic I cover from time to time and discuss in greater depth with my sex life coaching clients. This post is about an all natural powdered sleep aid (mix it up in water) I found through www.drdavidwilliams.com. I have a male client with sleep issues and for him at least, it changed his life. I also list below my research and current understandings of easy ways to improve our sleep. Better sleep for better sex.
Slow sex isn't about endurance, marathon sessions or complicated positions. It's about really being there in the moment, enjoying one another fully. It's about taking the time to touch and to kiss. The point isn't just to have sex, but rather to feel real sensual joy.
What happens in our bodies when we touch each other sexually? Why is touch so powerful? The unromantic answer is that when we touch, our brains are affronted with a deluge of chemicals that change both us and how we relate to our partner.
My libido has never been particularly off the charts but, lately, I've come to feel that—due to the perpetually barren desert between my legs – I'll never find my way out of this vast Sahara of a sex life. It's disconcerting. It's frustrating. But I'm not the only one. Luckily, you can turn your libido around.
