dealbreaker
Does a past history of domestic violence automatically disqualify him as relationship material?
There are dealbreakers and then there are dealbreakers—and a past history of domestic violence is a dealbreaker on a lot of people's list. Salon.com's advice columnist, Cary Tennis, fielded a question from a former abuser who's nervous about telling his new girlfriend he physically abused his ex-wife half a dozen times during their marriage. The Frisky: Helping A Friend Who's Being Hit
After divorcing, "Ex-Abuser," as he signed his letter, entered therapy and said it helped him "understand my reasons for the abuse, and the effect it had on both my wife and our relationship." Also after the divorce, … Read More
Ted Kennedy's death got us thinking: Would you date someone with a serious skeleton in his closet?
Senator Ted Kennedy died last night, and today everyone is talking about his legacy—the good parts and the bad, which got us to thinking: Could an incident from someone's past make you unwilling to date them? Case in point: the Chappaquiddick incident.
A quick recap: on July 18, 1969, while driving home from a party Ted Kennedy drove off a bridge. He swam to safety, but his passenger, Mary Jo Kopechne, didn’t make it out of the car. Kennedy didn't report the incident until the next day, after a diver found her body still inside the vehicle.
Besides saying he panicked—Kennedy never … Read More
Improving your relationship, silver divorce and commitment dealbreakers.
Love Bytes: Five must-click sex, love and relationship links.
Study shows that men mostly agree on who they find attractive whereas women have a broader range. [Asylum]
The ladies, on the other hand, didn't paint such a clear picture of what they desired. There were many cases of gals giving high attractive scores to the same picture others had trashed with low marks.
The divorce rate for women over 60, or the "Silver Divorce," is on the rise. [FirstWivesWorld]
3 ways to improve your relationship. [HuffingtonPost]
How to still look your best while saving a bunch of money. [Read More
Plus, the best (worst?) euphemisms for sex in romance novels.
Love Bytes: three must click sex, dating and relationship links.
Is a drab fashion sense enough cause to look elsewhere? "Though I am attracted to him, I am not attracted to his style. Help me out on this one: is boring style a dealbreaker?" [TheFrisky]
Authors of Beyond Heaving Bosoms: The Smart Bitches’ Guide to Romance Novels, Sarah Wendell and Candy Tan, sound off on the best/worst euphemisms for sex in a romance novel. [TresSugar]
The Salli saddle system protects men's genitals from poorly designed chairs. [Asylum]
Heather Graham reveals how she makes sex last for hours.
So Heather Graham played an entrancing porn star in the film The Guru and got Mike Meyers all hot and bothered as Felicity Shagwell in Austin Powers: The Spy Who Shagged Me. And right now you can catch her portraying a stripper in the comedy The Hangover. Seems that playing these sexy (and sexual) roles have started to rub off on her real-life sexcapades. Could More Porn Actually Make Us Healthier?
Heather revealed to the Mail on Sunday all about her love and appreciation of the art of tantric sex but made it very clear that it's nothing like Sting has … Read More
These signs will help you avoid the self-obsessed men out there.
Ever since John Edwards explained away his affair with Rielle Hunter, saying, "I started to believe that I was special and became increasing egocentric", we've been thinking about how it is just SUCH a dealbreaker to date a guy who's a narcissist. After all, who wants to end up in a bitter divorce battle like Christie Brinkley, whose ex-husband, Peter Cook, (who admitted to lying and cheating) was diagnosed as narcissistic by a court psychiatrist during their publicized divorce trial proceedings. But how do you tell if a person is a narcissist before you get caught up in their web … Read More
Action figure gifts, why men love your body and romantic dirty talk.
Love Bytes: three must-click love and relationship links.
Gift alert! Most guys played with action figures when they were little, so why not bring him back to childhood while indulging his mature quirkiness? Gifts here for: the Hitchcock fan, the Republican faithful, the East Coast hip hop fan and more. [The Daily Lowdown]
Ten things men love about your body. [Glamour via Shine]
Dealbreaker: the romantic dirty talker. [The Frisky]
One night, he halted a make out session to look deep into my eyes and asked, "Why does kissing you feel so right?"
"Um … … Read More
Loveyoubut.com pays tribute to the trivial annoyances that can ruin relationships.
While we like to think ourselves nobler than to break up with someone because of a habit such as excessive ketchup use, many a relationship's demise has begun with annoying minutiae and ended with the phrase: "I love you, but..."
Alex Holder and Ross Neil started dating three years ago and made an effort to be honest with each other about the little quirks that can quickly drive a partner mad. The couple, both creatives at a London ad agency, recently launched Loveyoubut, a website featuring possible endings to the "I love you, but..." declaration. Ross … Read More
What happens when growing up means growing out of your marriage?
One winter night in the Colgate University dining hall, sophomore Katie Thompson fell in love—fast and hard—between the salad bar and the soft-serve ice cream machine. One cute guy stood out in the crowd. She caught his eye, he asked her for a date and the rest, as they say, is history. They dated through college and their twenties as they launched their careers. They got married at 26, had two kids and lived happily ever after—almost. By the time she turned 36, Katie hardly remembered the girl she was when they'd met, and she realized she had not only … Read More
Is he a mama's boy? Is he forgetful? Does he only talk about himself? Women share their stories about relationship red flags, deal breakers, and dating nightmares.