Do you know how to grow together rather than grow apart?
Why do you obsess over how the guy you've been dating for all of a month and a half feels about you? Why are you tormenting yourself already with “Where is this relationship going?” I'm on my way to a conference in a very full plane, and two women are talking in the row in front of me. The one is saying “We've been seeing each other for over a month but I have no idea where this is going." "Well, obviously he likes you," the other says. "I know he likes me," the woman says, “but where is this going?" "Who cares?" her friend replies, “You're having a good time. "Sure," the woman says, "But I don't want to be wasting my time." And there's the dilemma. You're afraid of wasting your time on a relationship that'll go nowhere, yet a relationship can't happen if you don't spend time developing it. So what do you do?
What is it about the sight of your man ogling T & A spread naked in a magazine that makes you crazy? Why is it your boyfriend drooling over an air-brushed centerfold shatters your self esteem? You're going along quite nicely in your relationship, until you discover his stash of porn magazines. You throw them away – and he's fine with it. Only 2 months later, you catch him hungrily watching a porn movie in the middle of the afternoon. Suddenly, you're finding porn magazines everywhere. You're devastated. He promises to stop – he loves you and says sex with you is terrific - but somehow the porn keeps cropping up. What do you do? 1) Quit taking it personally. For a lot of guys, sex is a very big deal. Not just sex with a person – but sex – as a drive, as a preoccupation. Porn is a way of dealing with sex, not a substitute for making love with you (unless your love life is in trouble, but that's another story). 2) Make a choice. You have 3 to choose from:
There are topics people won't touch at cocktail parties because it's not "polite conversation." These are subjects people secretly want to discuss, but, when broached over hummus and Merlot, make them uncomfortable. These are precisely the things I love talking about. So here goes: My husband and I just graduated from couple's therapy.
For many years researchers have attempted to dissect the science between attraction. The results have varied widely; some scientists swear it's opposites and conflicting DNA that attract, others lay their bets on the like-minded and similar eventually shacking up. Well, the latest study to sprout out of the University of Michigan seems to confirm the latter—we desire what's familiar, and may even mature to look more like our partners the longer we stay together.
Is your relationship in a rut? Maybe you know that something’s missing in your relationship but you can’t quite put your finger on it. Being in a relationship rut means that you are neither particularly unhappy with your partner but you also not particularly happy. It’s like being in a comfortable place of indifference and acceptance that you can’t seem to get out of…why? Simply because it’s what you’ve both become accustomed to and you don’t know how to change it. But, here’s some great news...it doesn’t have to be this way! We all sometimes need a wake-up call to rouse us out of mediocrity and into the life and relationship of our dreams. There is a way to do this in your relationship and I’m going to give you some tips on how to get there.
They say that love has no bounds, but maybe it should. Reading this story about a biological grandmother and grandson who are romantically involved only illustrates that as long as love and sex abound, scandal will as well. Here are six couples whose story is more disturbing that delighting: