Stress is a normal and expected part of our lives, but it's not a part we always know how to deal with. We learn how to handle stressful situations by watching our parents and peers as we grow up. If you didn't have positive coping modeled for you, it may make it harder to handle even everyday stressors.
The latter half of the year with all of its holiday cheer and requisite obligations can bring stress and burn out at the best of times. If you have the misfortune to be going through some of your "worst of times" during the last couple months of the year the holiday season can take on a whole new meaning. A meaning that you had never planned on getting acquainted with. Unfortunately, life does not work on our own personal desired timeline.
One method of dealing with stress is learning how to recognize and talk back to that internal critic you have in your head. Write down all the self-critical thoughts going through your mind. Write down why these thoughts are incorrect. Then, practice talking back to them, explaining why they are wrong.
What is stress? Stress seems to seethe all around us — you read about it in the newspapers and magazines, hear about it on TV, Google it online. There appears to be a consensus out there: stress is hazardous to your health and well-being. But stress is seldom defined. They tell you to avoid it, that you need to "de-stress" your life, but only rarely does anyone tell you just how to do that. So you worry — you even stress about having stress — rather than doing something about it. After all, what in the world can you do?
Bonnie McEneaney, an author, former business executive and mother of four, lost her husband on Sept. 11, 2001 after he experienced premonitions that his life would end in a terrorist attack on New York City. Ten years later, Bonnie opens up on how the tragedy strengthened her spiritual bond with her deceased husband and what all women can learn about love based on the signs she's received from beyond.
I try to be a happy person and I really am the vast majority of the time. I am usually that annoying Pollyanna who thinks everything is going to be all right. My down times are few and far between, but, man, when they happen they are fierce.
Unfaithful husbands are often insensitive to the pain they inflict, just as are other abusers... In many instances, betrayal through infidelity can be very close to what we term domestic violence. Unfaithful husbands, especially if your husband has passive aggressive tendencies, are often insensitive to the pain they inflict, just as are perpetrators of physical and psychological violence. How To Leave An Abusive Husband
When Sean Penn kissed a man, he texted Madonna. Pre-divorce, there are serious 1980s sparks. Word on the InTouch street (via Celebitchy) has it that one-time marrieds Sean Penn and Madonna may be rekindling their relationship, which was last seen sputtering out sometime in 1989. Visit YourTango's Celebrity Love for the unbelievable scoop.
What do you say to your significant other when they lose (or know they could lose) a close friend or relative? And how do you help them regain their footing after the loss? Everyone experiences grief differently, but here are a few things to remember.
Recently, we happened upon a charming little website called DearOldLove.com. The concept is very simple: Much in the way that PostSecret publishes postcards with people's deepest secrets written on them, DearOldLove posts small, poignant notes from people who have one last thing to say to that old lover. Under the guise of anonymity, it's surprising how much that's left unsaid finds itself out in the open for all to read.
Spirituality is simply the willingness to be open to the concept that there are forces at work in this world that are beyond our comprehension. Some people refer to those forces as Nature, The Universe, or G-d. It doesn't matter what you call it, as long as you know it isn't you, because it's when you think that you are running your own life, and that it's up to you to make everything work out perfectly, you are setting yourself up for stress-related illness and Depression.
