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When meeting someone new, avoid these four conversation-ending topics.
Having a good conversation at a bar or on a first date is like trying to solve a differential equation. There are so many variables: the atmosphere, the sound level, the person, not to mention the many no man's lands on which the conversation can become beached. It's no wonder that many of these interactions go bust. So while perfecting the casual, sexy bar chat is a fine science far too complicated to cover in just one blog post, we at Love Buzz can help get you started on the right track by answering the age-old question of, what … Read More
Ten things not to say to that cute black man you're dating.
Even though we live in a "post-racial society" (thanks, Oprah!), we're all still pretty much ignorant when it comes to stereotypes.
Before reaching across the color line to make nice, make sure to avoid uttering any of these awkward phrases that'll have the "cool" black guy seeing red.
10. "So what sports do you play?"
We love playing tag. As a matter of fact, you're "it." Go hide while we count to a hundred million. 1... 2 ... 3...
9. "Do you work here?"
No, but the guy over there does. You'll notice he has a name tag and a spiffy uniform that … Read More
Jared Kushner and Ivanka to unite massive bank accounts; dad Donald is "very happy."
Some may be upset to hear it, but a certain real estate heiress is off the market.
According to the New York Daily News (and her Twitter account), Ivanka Trump is now engaged to real estate heir Jared Kushner. Ivanka, now engaged three times, tweeted on Thursday, "I got engaged last night ... truly the happiest day of my life!!!" Jared's rep later confirmed the posting. Is Twating (Twitter Dating) The Next Big Thing?
Jared and Ivanka have been dating for two years, but split briefly in 2008 over Ivanka's conversion to Judaism. (The Kushners … Read More
Dying to know your lover's secrets? Then spark up this conversation.
It's definitely not the type of light and airy chat you want to strike up on your first starry-eyed date. Let's be honest: Dredging up the past and owning all things that went right and wrong can be about as pleasant as having a root canal.But precisely because spilling the beans requires such a high level of comfort and trust, a Q&A session (topic: all things past) with your guy can bring the two of you closer in your relationship. And everything from the way he responds to your dig for details to the answers he gives will provide … Read More
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How early do you talk about politics in a new relationship?
During the vice-presidential debate, my normally peaceful relationship with my husband turned into a Soviet-era showdown. We both sat icily on opposite sides of the couch, and when I snorted at Sarah Palin's winking he glared at me. When he mumbled "lies" under his breath while Joe Biden was talking, I chucked a pillow at his head.
An iron curtain has descended in relationships across the country—on one side lie McCain supporters and on the other side Obama backers. With a looming economic crisis, two wars, a crumbling health care system and the future … Read More
When you want to say exactly what you mean; IM is the answer.
I've had some of the most intimate and intense conversation of my dating life over IM. Sitting at my desk (at my old job!) I would hash out the boundaries of my relationship, try to keep from crying and remain alert, ready to minimize if a co-worker walked behind me.
Over at Nerve (full disclosure: that's where I used to work) Will Doig writes about the non-stop IMathons that happen between sweeties when both of you are at work. Will and his boyfriend IMed so much, "it got so that IMing began to feel as natural as … Read More
Advice on coming clean about infidelity.
If you've ever cheated on a partner, you know the double helix of guilt and exhilaration infidelity produces. In today's Times Online, Dr. Pam Spurr explains that the only way to heal a relationship after cheating is to communicate effectively with your parter.
"It's staggering how powerful illicit passion can be in convincing a person that their behavior is acceptable," says Spurr. Your guilty conscience will give you all the rationalization you need. In fact, some people convince themselves they have a right to an affair. "If you keep telling yourself that you've been … Read More
Communication cards let him (or her) know what's going on inside your head.
In the present day tech-driven world, talking face to face has taken a backseat to emailing, IMing, texting, etc. Saying how you feel is much easier to type than to say. I Want U To Know communication cards are a happy medium. Slightly more personal than an email (which we all know is the wimpy way to bring something up) and the farthest thing from sappy-looking, hand one over when you have something to say, but aren't brave enough to utter the words yourself good or bad.
The ones we might actually give:I Love YouWe Need To TalkYou Are … Read More