Who me? Controlling? Here's how to take control of those buttons once and for all!
When we feel out of control, we feel helpless, powerless or hopeless. When we're sick, worried about finances, feeling a sense of lack or just woke up on the wrong side of the bed, the need to be in control increases. Subconsciously, we tell ourselves we are a victim, not lovable or not good enough. We get angry at our situation and try to control whatever or whomever else we can. You can be sure that the power struggles aren't far behind as we jockey to be heard, to be right, to tell our partner how to do things. Thinking someone or something has "happened to us", we talk over one another or diverge from the agenda at hand all in the name of eliminating the uncomfortable tension of the situation. It seems like the harder we try to control another person, the more we lose it ourselves. Can you relate?
Tips on how to face the everyday stressors of life.
Stress is a normal and expected part of our lives, but it's not a part we always know how to deal with. We learn how to handle stressful situations by watching our parents and peers as we grow up. If you didn't have positive coping modeled for you, it may make it harder to handle even everyday stressors.
Recognizing the value of you and your body by taking control of your choices and relationships
In this final chapter on identifying boundaries we continue to explore how our boundaries and limits stem from our views about ourselves and how they impact our lives and relationships. Recognizing your value and making choices to support that value is an integral part of relationship building and maintenance. Boundaries can show your level of respect for yourself and your body through how you act and what people you allow to have influence over you. Learning that you have value can help you to understand that the way in which you treat yourself is how others will treat you.
Your success rate is a question of control, reinforcement and good old-fashioned will power.
Happy New Year! The holidays are over and we are back to work. I came to my desk this morning to find some delicious candy surprises in a little goodie bag. While I was settling in for the day and breaking into one of the bags of M&Ms, I realized that I have already officially broken both of my New Year's resolutions (cutting back on the sweets and eating at my desk).
What are you willing to do to rise above your uncertain circumstances and live the life you deserve?
With 2012 rapidly approaching, many people are talking about how uncertain they are about the future. Uncertainty about the economy, the upcoming elections, the environment....you name it. Is your mind running you ragged with worry? Is uncertainty stealing your peace this Christmas? Do you struggle to plug into your intuitive guidance when you need it most?
Are you easily overwhelmed? Find out how to cope with stress in your everyday life.
A couple of years ago, I began a very busy and fulfilling job. I was excited about the opportunities it presented to me. The more I immersed myself in the work, the more I was inspired by ideas about how the position could grow and evolve over time. I used my creativity and determination to try to bring about all that I believed was possible. When I started, I was naive about the inner-workings of the organization and the power imbalances that existed. It quickly became clear to me that trying to create any kind of meaningful change in the organization was going to be incredibly difficult. As I embraced the challenge, I worked hard, did my best and felt like I was living true to my values of honesty, hard work, connection and responsibility.
Tired of leaving the future of your relationships in another person's hands? Get up and get control
Have you ever been in a situation where you've met a great guy, spent a lot of time with him, and then found yourself in that awkward "where do we go from here" space after weeks, months, and possibly even years of time spent? Have you ever dreaded having that talk with him?
Let us embark on a journey to find your inner Goddess if you are not in touch with her already.
Hello, my darling Goddesses and welcome to a guide that teaches you how to reveal your inner Goddess. Yes, you are a Goddess. Let us embark on a journey to find your inner Goddess if you are not in touch with her already. If you know your Goddess (a little or even a lot), then this exercise will still be an advantageous means to become reacquainted with her.
A lack of sexuality is common in marriages. There is a very good reason for this.
Research indicates that over 55% of married women are not interested in having sex with their husbands. I've worked with many men who also are not interested in sex with their wives. The problem is generally not a lack of sexual desire - it's that they are not interested in sex with their partner.
Why?
YourTango Experts teach us how to achieve a balanced relationship that serves others and ourselves.
We all give every day—to our partners, friends, family, neighbors, jobs and community. While it's healthy and vital to help the ones we love, many of us struggle to balance these needs with our own. This can lead to trouble: either we become too self-absorbed, or we find it hard to say "No" to others in order to have a little "me" time. As part of our Love Starts Within spotlight, we asked some of our Experts to share their advice on how to grapple with these demands from multiple angles:
Money, power, creativity, babies, projects, relationships...Learn how to create with your sexuality
Money, power, creativity, babies, projects, relationships…
These words describe material manifestations of the Sacral Energetic Center, the Second Chakra that is located in the abdominal area of your body.
Do you know that where your attention goes, the creative process of your life flows?
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