It's easy to put people in boxes, but at what cost to your health?
What Little Box Are You Living In?
Have you ever noticed that we have a tendency to put people in little boxes, as if that is all there is to them? These are the labels that we quickly spout off when someone asks us something like, “What is Susan like?” More a label than a description, these boxes are a one dimensional view of a person, as if that were our nature. It reminds me of a old song by Malvina Reynolds..
Little boxes on the hillside,
Little boxes made of ticky tacky,
Little boxes on the hillside,
Practice these guidelines and feel your connection grow stronger and deeper.
The path of relationship is sometimes called the most difficult spiritual practice of all, but these five simple guidelines can go a long way toward helping you to happier, healthier relating of all kinds.
How to stay romantically connected with your husband, and be a good example for your children.
When two people love each other, nothing is better than raising a family together. That said, parents often put their parenting and career responsibilities at the top of their priority list, and allow their marriage to fall to the bottom. Most parents are on an endless treadmill of chores, meals and responsibilities, and forget to invest in nurturing each other.
Is the passion dwindling or gone from your relationship? Discover what you can do to bring it back!
Good relationships don’t just happen. I’ve heard many of my clients state that, “If I have to work at it, then it’s not the right relationship.” This is not a true statement, any more than it’s true that you don’t have to work at good physical health through exercise, eating well, and stress reduction.
Trying to squeeze yourself into a relationship that is not yours? This this to resolve your doubts.
Relationship Puzzle is a real game.
Relationship Puzzle is a real game. We all play it every day, figuring out where we belong in life in relationship to others. When you find a perfect fit, your relationship feels great and you reflect this perfection in your looks. When you are trying to squeeze yourself into a relationship, a carrier, or an environment that are not yours, you feel exhausted and depleted and your life puzzle looses some bright colors.
Dr. Adam Sheck writes about the importance of "turning towards" our partner's attempts at connection
Do You Turn Toward, Turn Away Or Turn Against?
Each day, our partners make many attempts to connect with us, both verbal and nonverbal. World renowned couples research, Dr. John Gottman calls these attempts "bids" for emotional connection.
A bid can be a question, a look, an affectionate touch or anything else that opens the door to connection. In his research, Gottman reports that a happy couple can make as many as 100 bids over the course of a meal!
Remember when you'd kiss each other for hours, never needing to say a word? Want to get there again?
Mmmmmmmm, I love this exercise.
I had a lovely couple in my office this week. They booked a 2-hr session with me to have a little "guided re-connection time" with one another while they are on vacation. They were new to Tantra and erotic exploration so I took it slow with them...
We began with some breathwork exercises to help them connect to themsleves and one another and then moved into something I like to call "The Kissing Meditation."
Have you compromised yourself? Given up part of you for a relationship? There is another way.
Great lessons happen every day, it is up to use to recognize them and use them to raise our consciousness. Sometimes it is easier to see the lesson and other times it is tricky. Putting your foot down and demanding respect or a promise to be held are all ways one solidifies one’s roots and stands one’s ground.
I looked really hard for the lesson in an experience with an old boyfriend recently and it took me 2 days to really come to the acknowledgement of what the growth opportunity was for me.
Dr. Adam Sheck writes why talking too much might be harmful to your relationship.
Don’t talk so much!
I know that this sounds insensitive and politically incorrect. I know that psychologists and couples counselors such as myself are supposed to push “communication” as the key to a better relationship. AND, I’m here to tell you the truth or at least MY TRUTH.
This post is specifically for women in heterosexual relationships. While I’ve worked with many gay and lesbian couples over the last twenty years, I’m not sure if this perspective applies to their relationship dynamics. I’d love feedback though.
Are you getting the same feedback by different people? Do you seem to not attract many dates? Do you have the same results in different relationships? It might be an easy fix. You might just need to send out a different message!
How could I explain to my (childless) friend that taking a shower once a week was an exercise in time management gymnastics—and a much higher priority than sex?
