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Better communication can really increase the chemistry you have with your partner.

Bring More Heart Into Your Sex Life! [EXPERT]

3 powerful approaches and 17 potent phrases to help you and your lover open your hearts in bed.

Sometimes, even when we have great sexual chemistry with our partner, we may feel shy or awkward when it comes to connecting on a more intimate level. This is particularly true when we're feeling intense levels of attraction, desire or attachment. We may fear lack of reciprocity from our partner, or even worse, withdrawal and rejection. Or, we may simply lack trust in our ability to communicate in a way that will be received with genuine care and understanding. Well there's good news here, for there are a number of ways to gently and slowly open our hearts and encourage our partner to do the same.

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Why you should look past the profile and look for the connection.

Why You Should Take Your Chances When Online Dating [EXPERT]

Is online dating like ordering a pizza? Choose your matches without getting bogged down with choices

I'd like a large pie with extra cheese, mushrooms, sausage, and broccoli. But make sure the cheese is covering the whole pizza because I don't like baldness, and actually, why don't you hold the sausage? I'd like someone who doesn't eat processed meat. And while you're there, make sure those mushrooms are well-educated, like maybe with a master's or PhD, and as for the broccoli, can you make sure it's a certain height because I only want it if it's tall. Could I get that to go? Thanks.

The One Problem With Being His F%@K Buddy

The One Problem With Being His F%@K Buddy

"How in the hell did this happen when all I wanted was sex?" You have this one hormone to thank.

Well first let's define F%&! Buddy. According to Urbandictionary.com definition numero 6. (The explanation our relationship coaches liked most) breaks it down pretty clear: F%@K Buddy: All the benefits of having a relationship minus the bullshit like acting interested in Every Word He Says, trying to sleep through mega-hertz snores, feeling like shit when he can't use a calendar to remem

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A small part of us makes us seek affection and approval from those who withhold it.

Love Bytes: Ignoring Men Makes Them Love You More

Plus, are your guys' dietary habits getting on your nerves?

When you're hard to get, we try harder. What if your guy cheated in his past relationship? It really bothers some guys if their lady has a high number. What if your lover refuses to answer when asked what his "number" is? Food is just as important to women as it is to men. Imagine that! And, six reasons black women should date outside of their ethnicity.

In Love & Therapy: Why Chemistry Matters [EXPERT]
When you meet someone, you either sizzle or fizzle.

In Love & Therapy: Why Chemistry Matters [EXPERT]

What is chemistry and how important is it really? Find out here.

How to meet people is a question that is often asked, but what we really want to know is how to meet people we like, connect with, enjoy, and feel good around. Does it really boil down to chemistry? We talk to many people throughout our day ... at the morning coffee shop, on a school playground, at the office ... but who would you like to spend your free time with? Who makes you laugh? Who do you have chemistry with?

Dating: Should I Give This Guy A Second Chance?  [VIDEO]

Dating: Should I Give This Guy A Second Chance? [VIDEO]

Sometimes it takes more than one date to build chemistry.

Was the first date only "okay"? Are you looking for fireworks as a sign he is worthy of your time? Well, don't! You could be missing out on a really good guy. 13 Reasons Women Turn Down A Second Date In this video, YourTango experts and relationship coaches Orna and Matthew Walters say, "It's always worth a second date." Even though the sparks might not fly the first time around, a second date might be a chance to learn if he could be your type (or what your type is). 

3 Secrets to a Long, Happy Marriage

3 Secrets to a Long, Happy Marriage

Couple celebrates 80 years of marriage. What's their secret?

“Couple Celebrates 80 Years of Marriage!” Just a sensational headline? Incredibly, no! The latest in a number of marriages highlighted in the news over the past year tell the remarkable story of Mitchell and Mattie Atkins of West Philadelphia. Married on January 14th, 1930, they were honored recently by family and friends at an anniversary party celebrating an incredibly rare 80 years together.

The Chemistry of Love

The Chemistry of Love

Based on the work of Helen Fisher, PhD, here's what's really going on when we're in love.

All you have to do is pick up any magazine in line at the grocery store to know that people are especially eager to connect with the perfect partner—and hold onto him or her for good. This is nothing new; mankind has searched for aphrodisiacs for centuries. The ancient Romans slurped down oysters, the Chinese swore by shark fin soup, and the Arabs were keen on camel’s hump. But for modern romantics, science has some encouraging news: Our body equips us with some natural and powerful aphrodisiacs, along with the tools to make romance last.

Bring Back Your Sexual Power: Energetics of the Second Chakra

Bring Back Your Sexual Power: Energetics of the Second Chakra

Money, power, creativity, babies, projects, relationships...Learn how to create with your sexuality

Money, power, creativity, babies, projects, relationships… These words describe material manifestations of the Sacral Energetic Center, the Second Chakra that is located in the abdominal area of your body. Do you know that where your attention goes, the creative process of your life flows?

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How To Make Chemistry Happen

If you don't feel that instant spark, some experts say it's possible to create chemistry.

If you don't feel that instant spark, can you ignite a flame if you try?

Affectionate older couple

You're Never Too Old For Sexual Chemistry

Hormones don't have an age limit: how to keep the sexy going into old age.

What is it that makes a middle-aged woman and man suddenly notice each other? It happens regularly when we are younger and theories regarding childbearing are in play; but not so much as women get older. Many of us have experienced the isolation and frustration of being "invisible" to men when we're over 50.