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Valentine's Day should be special and romantic for couples, but it may actually be someone outside the marriage who is getting the attention and special gifts. AOL reports that February 13th is becoming just as busy for florists, restaurants and others because it's the day men take out their mistresses. In this situation, everyone loses.
Whether you are married or in a committed monogamous relationship, finding out that your partner had a scandalous affair with another person is extremely painful. Any form of infidelity leads to an enormous amount of emotional pain in all areas, trust issues, and possible risk of STD’s.
Here is the scenario: Every morning you walk into your office and are greeted with kind salutations, a smile, and possibly a cup of coffee. Your day may progress with some flirting, eye winking, and a business lunch for sushi and drinks. Work seems to be your home away from home lately and the aura is much kinder and more jovial than your living situation. Your only stress is dealing with clients and business issues. Why can’t every level of your life be this fancy free?
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Few things harm a relationship more than an affair. Whether the affair is emotional, a 'one night stand,' long term or a cyber-affair, the betrayal delivers a life-altering blow. Will the injury to the relationship prove fatal? There are some essential steps a couple must take for there to be any hope that the relationship can survive an affair. If done wisely, there is hope the relationship will come through the ordeal stronger than before. Here are eight steps that can help save your marriage.
You've noticed something weird about your man. He's all about himself and away from home a lot more these days. He's on his phone a lot and never lets his phone out of his sight. You just can't shake this feeling that he might be up to something…and that something is cheating.
Is it selfish to confess an affair to your wife or husband? If it makes you feel better but makes them feel worse, is that OK? And, how are they ever going to trust you again once your infidelity sees the light of day? 5 Ways To Move Beyond An Affair In this video, Relationship and YourTango Expert Janie Lacy offers her advice to a reader who has cheated on his wife and is debating whether or not to come clean.
When someone cheats on you it’s like your whole world has crashed down on you. It’s hard to get up and continue on with your life. It’s possible though, you just need to know how to do it. Understanding how to help yourself will get you back on your feet and feeling stronger in no time. Step #1: Allow Yourself to Feel the Pain Many people will want to bury themselves with work and not deal with the pain of infidelity but that’s not the way to deal with it. What happens with that is you’ll just bury it deep inside of you and it will grow. It will grow inside of you like a disease and it will infect a future relationship. The next thing you know when you start dating someone else, you’ll start to see them as a cheating bastard just like your ex was and that is not fair to you or him.
"Why would my boyfriend cheat on me?" "I'm pretty sure my wife is cheating on me. I want to know why." "I know that my husband has been cheating on me for years. I don't get why he does this." Why do people cheat on their partners? Why do others have affairs that their partners know about? Here are some of the reasons for cheating that I have encountered in my many years of counseling.
When it comes to infidelity, things can get a little unclear and murky sometimes. He might argue that what he's doing is not cheating and tell you to stop overreacting. She might claim that you're just being jealous or crazy and that her actions are “no big deal.”
We all know that men (and likely women for that matter) cheat because the sex isn't that good anymore or they've found something better elsewhere, right?
We are a bit nervous about writing this article because we know you may not want to hear what we have to say. Some of this may not be what you want to hear, and this is actually the very reason men don’t tell you what we really think. But we hope that you can benefit from our honesty as part of a potential solution to this age old problem.
