When men are cheap with their money, they tend to be globally cheap.
Will an orange smell any different if you move it from your kitchen to your bedroom? No! An orange is an orange no matter how you slice it! And a cheap guy is a cheap guy no matter what the Holiday … be it Christmas, your birthday, Easter, or Halloween, he is never going to honor you in the way that you deserve — not because he doesn't have the time, money, or creativity, but because he is cheap.
What that online dating profile is really telling you.
I used to set couples up on blind dates, interview them afterward and then report it all to readers. Between studying the applications and conducting the interviews, I learned how to discern facts from what people said about themselves. Below I share with you my top learnings on how to spot the cheap, the players and the narcissists online.
Your man could have a valid reason for being cheap—it doesn't have to be an automatic deal breaker.
Your man displays any number of great qualities: kindness, the ability to keep his mouth shut during a movie, a willingness to entertain your "does this make me look fat?" clothes-modeling ritual, an unwillingness to splash out any cash any time you two go out...
Hold up—what was that last one again? Is it possible that Loverboy is perfect in every other way except when it comes to parting ways with Lincoln, Franklin or Grant during a date with you? And if so, should this trait be a deal-breaker for the relationship?
First, let's define what makes him "cheap" versus "not a sucker, "has other priorities," or the garden-variety "is poor":
Let's face it: The economy may be improving, but blast that lagging economic indicator—unemployment is around to stay, at least for a little bit. And while you may have plenty of time on your hands, the reality is that, more likely than not, your pockets will be a little bit emptier than desired. Never fear, necessity is the mother of invention! And there are plenty of ways you can save money on a date (without looking like a cheap skate). Clever, low-cost date ideas will get you out and about in the world with your sweetheart and allow you to get to know each other better than any fancy-schmancy dinner could ever facilitate.
First dates at Le Cirque and second dates in St. Barth’s are out (for me, and maybe you, they were never in, but you get the point). Everyone’s feeling pressure on their wallets, and so for a lot of folks, that means pressure on the dating budget. What are the dating experts advocating in the downturn?
Is the recession a good enough excuse for him not to pay the bill?
Twice, my friend Susan (I have changed some names and identifiers) found herself covering for a date who was short on cash. On the first date. At the end of one of them, there was even a humiliating walk to an ATM machine, where he handed her precisely his half and thanked her for a nice evening. Susan was mortified.
Show your love this season—without spending a dime.
The holidays are upon us, and, unfortunately, so is a recession. Times are tough, wallets are tighter, but you want to give your one and only something to show how much you care this Christmas or Hanukkah. One writer explains how she gave—and received—the very best gifts without spending a dime.
Save yourself $8: Don't buy her a drink...send her a wink!
Not only are people holding off on divorce as a result of the failing economy, now they're looking for more economical ways to woo once on the market again.
