The one-night stand "before" is almost as exciting as the "after" is awkward. Everyone's keyed up. Irrespective of booze's involvement, there is a certain headiness that something sordid is in the offing. So you do what comes naturally, and some time later tunnel vision returns to normal vision, your heartbeat lowers to its regular pace and blood begins circulating into it's standard route, rather than pooling in various locales. Yep, you just got some FA*.

Now comes the awkward part. As one million thoughts flood your brain, you try to read the other person's mind by starting sentences with … Read More

Hey, summer's almost over, what have you been doing? Seriously? All you've done this summer was see Transformers 2, Julie & Julia and The Final Destination and go to the Grand Canyon? You gotta get crackin', brah. While summer doesn't actually expire until the third week in September, Labor Day is traditionally the last hurrah. It's hard to call it "summer" once football starts. 

So, how do you cram an entire summer of loving into a long weekend? "Like a ninja" is how.

Step one: Music. There's nothing like a musical montage to make it seem like something lasts much longer than … Read More

If you think the headline: Men Less Picky For A One Night Stand is as obvious an observation as The Sky Is Blue then, yes, you'd be correct. One Night Stand Dos And Don'ts

But it is our job to report when (yet another) study reveals that men enjoy casual sex and probably won't turn it down if you offer. Even if you aren't of supermodel caliber, or hell, even average looking.

Achim Schützwohl and his research team of Brunel University in London rounded up groups of American, Italian and German men and women for a … Read More

Love Bytes: Three must-click sex, love and relationship links.

These songs don't mean what you think they mean. Here are five songs to avoid at your wedding. [Divine Caroline]

Where do you hide your vibrator? [The Frisky]

"Do you feel sheepish that you own a vibrator? Well, stop. According to two new national surveys from Indiana University, 53 percent of women and nearly half of men report having used a vibrator. In fact, the vibrator is nearly as popular in households as appliances such as the drip coffee maker and the toaster oven."

10 Bad Justifications For Casual Sex [Read More

Love Bytes: Three must-click sex, love and relationship links.

Robert Pattinson is what mothers' fantasies are made of. [Huffington Post]

I am shocked by this and a little disturbed by this inconsistency in my feminist politics and here's why: These books portray the archetypal barely-civilized man lusting, actually hungering, for a frail and naïve woman. She loves him because he's physically superior—tall, broad-shouldered, the whole Greek god thing, he knows her in a deep way that the rest of the superficial world has overlooked, and best of all, he can beat up anybody who messes with her.

Love in a couple … Read More

These days, women are suckers for anything labeled "lite," whether it's cookies, ice cream or bacon-flavored spread. It was only a matter of time before we started taking our intimacy lite too. Intimacy lite is a new way of dating, bridging the gap between casual sex and full blown relationships.

Two of my favorite sex writers, Em and Lo, recently posted a piece about intimacy lite. As they say, "If you’ve ever spooned your booty call or held hands with your one-night stand, you’re familiar with intimacy lite… commitment-phobes (i.e. 99.9% of male college … Read More

It's that time again, I cruise around the entire interweb and find the most noteworthy stories, advice or anecdotes about love (and relationships). No jokes about Swine Flu today and I will not talk about that plane that flew a little too low over Manhattan yesterday with a fighter jet in-tow. I will talk about…

Awful divorces. Cracked has compiled a compendium of their ten stickiest divorces of all time. That guy who gave his wife a kidney and tries to get cash value after the fact even made the list.

Cash Rules Everything Around Me, too. That's why … Read More

Everyone and their dog has heard of Casual Encounters. It's only been the punch line to, like, a million and one lonely people jokes for, like, a billion years now, but somehow the Times decided to get their investigative hands drrty and explore the "underbelly" of craigslist.Casual Encounters is exactly as it sounds; a place to find a casual encounter. While garnering more traffic than match.com, eharmony and Yahoo! personals, the smutty section of anonymous sex gained some bad publicity as of late due to two murders that happened pretty close to one another. One man … Read More

Sex bloggers Em and Lo have a weekly column called "Wise Guys" where they ask three men (always some variation of single, gay, and married) some hypothetical question women rack their pretty, little heads over. In the past, "Why Do Men Masturbate When They're In A Relationship?" and "My Girlfriend Thinks Porn-Viewing Is A Deal-Breaker."

This week: "Do Men Ever Turn Down Casual Sex?"

All three guys had their own version of "Yes, but only...".

Here's some Cliff's Notes for all of you in the market for no-strings-attached nookie:

1.) Don't Get Too Drunk.

As Straight Married Guy … Read More

How does someone end up not having sex for 15 years? By accident, swears writer Kit Naylor on Salon.com.

We've all had dry spells, but man, 15 years is one hell of a dry spell!

Naylor is a middleaged woman, a self-described recluse with two cats and no kids. She calls herself "a spinster long past my sell-by date." Spinster! We think that's a sexist way to refer to herself, but nevertheless, we admire how she got that way: she wants to be in love to make love. It seems that by eschewing casual sex and being committed to personal … Read More