My husband is leaning over the bathroom sink, and instantly I'm lured from my comfort zone on the couch. I'm seduced by how the fluorescent light outlines the curve of his bicep, the muscles of his back. He looks up and returns my devilish smirk in the mirror's reflection. I make my move.

A bright red zit in the small of his back has come to a head—and I must have at it this instant.

"I don't get why this amuses you," he sighs, exasperated at my zeal.

"Because your body is no longer yours," I calmly explain. "It's mine."

Gross? Uh, yeah. But … Read More

Certain words I dread ("We need to schedule two more dental appointments") while others I would kill to hear ("Ann Coulter's physician confirms sex-change operation").

And then there are statements that defy imagination, such as; "My husband gave me the greatest birthday present last night—a public flogging." I actually overheard one of my exotic dance students say these exact words last week.

Now, I'm not exactly unfamiliar with the BDSM scene. My education began a few years ago, while browsing the aisles of my favorite sex shop. A man came up to me and asked, "Are you a Dom or … Read More

Separation between couples is often misunderstood due to the lack of guidelines and the ease with which it can be carried out. It is fraught with many pitfalls if certain clear objectives are not laid down or ultimately met. The most basic goal of any separation is to give the couple space and time in their relationship to decide on future action, particularly in saving the marriage etc., without undue influence from each other. However, couples often get distracted and confused and lose sight of their goal and their trial separation ends in divorce. 

Furthermore, once separated, some people will … Read More

An OB-GYN in British Columbia was recently suspended for asking out a patient- an ethical no-no according to the British Columbia College of Physicians and Surgeons' annual report, which dually notes its recent review of the 28 sexual misconduct allegations of 24 different physicians in 2007. The report vaguely recounts the telltale signs of inappropriate conduct -as if there is any question whether sexual intercourse may be inappropriate during a typical pelvic exam. Also far from surprising: "sexualized touching" appears on the list.

While readers of "The Female 'Happy Ending' Massage" story have suggested that a client's relationship … Read More

You know that couple—the one that checks each other’s email, answers each other’s cell phones, and formulates opinions as a pair ("We're so over Will Ferrell!"). Maybe—horror of horrors!—you've even been in that relationship. Regardless, it's important to find a balance between independence and intimacy. That’s why we asked Jane Adams, Ph.D., author of Boundary Issues: Using Boundary Intelligence to Get the Intimacy You Want and the Independence You Need in Life, Love, and Work, to explain why fences can sometimes make good neighbors.

Why do we create boundaries in romantic relationships? We create them because of this … Read More