We recently published a piece called "Is Your Body Image Hurting Your Love Life? 3 Ways To Change," which is all about how women need to stop the negative self-talk and embrace positive body images, flaws and all. But how does one do that when the media is filled with Jessica Albas and Rihannas (both of whom are literally staring at me right now from magazine covers), and the world is filled with douchebags who judge women based on appearance? New website My Body Image thinks it's helping.
In my last article I addressed the topic of body image and how it is important to love your self so you can let love in. While I think this is extremely important because many women loathe their bodies, I also think it is just as important to not ignore your health. I have worked with a number of women in their 40’s and 50’s that were overweight. They worked out, they dressed well and they took care of themselves. BUT they had not been to the doctor for several years because they were afraid of getting on the scale and what they would hear.
Your body is the guardian of your heart, mind and soul. The physical may not be the most important part of our true essence, but until science fact catches up to science fiction, it’s the only vessel available for experience and expression. Our YourTango experts recently weighed in with tips on how your body image can bring more love into your life.
What exactly changes in your life when you are a size 0 or even smaller? Do you get more friends, feel more loved or attain greater happiness? Does it really improve the way you feel about yourself, or verify that you still aren’t enough? I’ve been wondering what really drives the obsession with being thin after watching yet another celebrity slim down to the point she is skeletal. The beautiful Katie Holmes has gone from fit, sexy and stunning to super skinny and looking anorexic.
If you are a woman you can relate to the fact then many men always seem “on.” They may work all day, come home exhausted, but if you mention sex, most of them are ready and raring to go. Women are not like this. We need time to make a transition into sexy. A big mistake many couples with small children make is on date night, if dinner is set for 7p.m. they have the sitter come at 6:30 or 6:45. The date may feel hurried, tense, and doesn’t usually end with both people feeling relaxed and amorous.
Eating healthy is critical whether your goal is weight loss, fitness or a healthier lifestyle in general. However, you don’t have to meticulously count calories or starve yourself to be healthy; rather, you need to provide your body with ample nourishment. While junk food and sugary treats might present challenges and temptations, adopting correct eating ideas and strategies will help make healthy eating a natural habit.
In life, I have always known my station. I am the funny and "cute" friend who makes people laugh. I'm the comedian, always good for a laugh and an outlandish outburst. But no matter how comfortable I felt with "the comedy bit," I was always left feeling like I didn't measure up. If you had asked me to list the pros and cons of myself, the negatives would always outweigh the positives. It was so much easier for me to go there. But that all changed when I fell in love with myself. First, let's look back.
For many people, there is a direct correlation between negative self image and their libido. It's hard to feel sexy with a slew of negative thoughts swirling around in your head. We asked our Experts to weigh in with simple yet effective ways readers can feel sexier right now. Using the principal of acting "as if" (aka fake it until you make it!), we think this can help even the most stubborn believer to connect with her more sexual self and reap some of the amazing benefits of a healthy sex life.
Very few things are as confusing as the link between what we think is beautiful, our self-image and our sexuality. What each of us perceives as beautiful or sexy is as varied as what you might eat for dinner. The biggest myth about finding love is that there is some perfect set of rules that leads to success. And this is just not true. No one is perfect. Pretty people and plain people alike struggle to find love and no one is immune to fears about ending up alone.
Your relationship with your 'self' is one of the most critical relationships you'll be in over the course of your life. How you feel, and what you believe to be "true"about your self, your body, your mind and your spirit often translates, like a ripple in a pond, into your collective self image often called your self-esteem. Positive, loving beliefs appear to inspire loving actions and a loving relationship with your self. Similarly, negative, mistaken beliefs often inspire an abusive and a mistrusting relationship with your self.
You know how it goes. You're just starting to get your sexy groove on and suddenly you have an attack of the gremlins, whispering their poisonous prattle in your ear about this being too lumpy and that being too small. And you find your libido falling faster than your first souffle.
Think back on your inner dialogue today. If you’ve like the average American woman, you have 13 negative thoughts about your body each day. Well, guess what? Your self-esteem has been listening, internalizing every perceived inadequacy. Here’s a question: do your thighs really make you unsexy? or does your negative perception of your thighs make you feel unsexy? It’s time to start treating our bodies with the same kid gloves we use on the ones we love—if not, it’s not just our self-esteem that suffers, it’s our whole sense of well-being, relationship satisfaction included.
Our relationships with our bodies is one of the most sensitive and critical relationships of our lives. The messages of abuse, tenderness, love, hate and everything in between that we send our bodies have a major impact on both body image and functionality. A study published on Glamour.com found that the average woman has 13 negative thoughts about her body each day with several women reporting 35, 50 and even 100 negative thoughts a day.
Are you tired of struggling with your weight? End the battle with your body today. Are you tired of struggling with your weight? Ending the battle with your body is more accessible than you might think, and the answer to how may surprise you…Stop dieting. When I first heard this, I loved the idea of being free of the weighing and measuring and counting, and worrying. I had butterflies over the thought of what it might be like to never diet again. But I realized rather quickly, there’s a fine line between the butterflies of excitement and the butterflies of panic – and I was panicked.
How you feel about losing your virginity depends… are you a guy or girl? The morning after can be difficult no matter if you are a guy or a girl, but it seems to be more difficult for girls than guys. A study from researchers at Pennsylvania State University reports male university students' body images improved after having sexual intercourse for the first time, while the opposite pattern was found with females.