Last month during an intimate girls' night in, I publicly posed the question that many overweight women wonder but never say aloud: "Is someone only going to marry me to get US citizenship?" I don't mean to knock cross-cultural love, but the fear I'd always had confronted me a few days before. A woman I knew, a good-looking gal with a great job and also about a hundred excess pounds, just got engaged to a weird-looking guy who I don't think speaks English. And, apparently, my fears are pretty commonplace among bigger gals.
Victoria's Secret is the world's most famous lingerie brand, that's a fact. But a summer working there taught Rajul Punjabi that it's also great place to observe the female body image and it's self-esteem counterpart. It turns out, irrespective of the facts at hand, that women with enough self-esteem were happy with how they looked. All the thongs, bras, and garters in the store didn't matter as much as what was beneath them... way beneath them.
Pepper Schwartz, a seasoned lover, psychologist and author, writes about the things she wish she knew about sex at 30. How much do body image, fantasy, oral sex and sex toys factor into a healthy sex life? Read on to find out. Plus, the revealing connection between foreplay, orgasms and faking it.
Women are plagued by physical imperfections or a negative body image that go virtually unnoticed by the object of their affection. Is it possible for us to find beauty in our flaws? "Many women swagger confidently through business meetings and cocktail parties. But once they shed the armor of Diane von Furstenberg and True Religion they become flustered schoolgirls, ashamed of everything from scars and birthmarks to stretch marks and small breasts. n an age when many women yearn for the airbrushed perfection of Beyoncé and Jennifer Aniston, it's easy to assume that men do, too."
Have you ever wondered what happens when readers follow an advice columnist's sex tips to a T? In this piece, read tongue in cheek letters to the fictional "American Vixen" magazine and see how the (imaginary) readers handled advice on how to deal with a poor body image.