or the best advice on sex, love, dating and relationships we ask two experts with personal experience. Cathi Hanauer is the author, most recently, of Sweet Ruin, a novel about love, marriage, and adultery. Daniel Jones is the editor of both the "Modern Love" column for The New York Times, and Modern Love, an anthology derived from the column. They've been married for 15 years, and together they provide a his and hers take on relationship questions. This round: who pays for birth control?My boyfriend and I have been living together for a while now. We’re committed, but since we're not ready to say "I do" or start a family, birth control (me taking the pill) is essential. I want him to share the not-insignificant cost of my prescription. He says none of the guys he knows split the contraception tab with their girlfriends, so why should he? —B.K., New York, N.Y.
Ever wish you could ditch your monthly cycle? Experts say that taking two packs of the pill back to back—which will result in a skipped period—is quite safe. Expert Dr. Leslie Miller talks about menstrual suppression with birth control pills such as Seasonale, Alesse and it's generic counterpart, Aviane. It might take you several tries to find the right pill to stop your bleeding, but here's a good place to start. According to Dr. Miller, "A woman should be able to ask, 'How much progestin and estrogen do I need to turn off ovulation until I want to have a baby?' or say: 'I want to have a period every three months, or maybe I don't want any at all.' That's my vision. We need to learn how to dose the pill to get that effect."