There's nothing like a BFF, but what happens when you have a new best friend every couple of years?
By GalTimer Dana Keller
Patricia. Galen. Mary. Cheryl. Myra. Barbara. Kathy. All very, very close friends of mine at one period of time in my life or another to whom I never or rarely speak anymore. I have heard the sayings about some friends being friends for a time and others for a lifetime, but I've never been able to reconcile my heart with my head on that one. That I have somehow managed to lose so many close friends over the years has been a source of pain for me for quite some time.
Breaking up with guys? Got it down. Tossing a toxic gal pal? Not so easy, but it can be done.
After years of experience, I've got breaking up with guys down to a science. (A once useful skill which, now that I'm happily married, I hope I'll never have to use again!) But breaking up with friends? That's a lot tougher to do.
He's your bestest bud, but you also like him like him. Here's how to take things to the next level!
You're already best buds. But when you look at him, you want something more. So how do you turn that BFF into a BF — and go from gal pal to girlfriend? We asked Galtime Dating Coach Dr. Jenn Oikle, Ph.D. of My Soulmate Solution for some pointers. First up — how do you know if your guy pal may be looking for more?
Nothing changes a friendship like a wedding. Well, besides infidelity and babies.
If I hear one more person describe Bridesmaids as "the female version of The Hangover," I'm going to Kristen Wiig out. Why do we have to label a movie that's hilarious in its own right as the female version of something else? Well, actually I know why. Because a lot of comedies starring women aren't exactly thought of as "funny." And a lot of wedding-related movies are cheesier than they are clever and witty.
Bridesmaids is a long overdue exception. Despite its title and premise, it's not really about a wedding, either. We don't even really meet the groom. The movie is about two best friends growing in different directions. Annie (Kristen Wiig) is stuck in a dead-end job after the bakery she opened—and the boyfriend who helped her run it—both go out of business. Her best friend Lillian (Maya Rudolph) has always been her cheerleader and confidante. But their relationship changes when Lillian gets engaged and asks Annie to be the maid of honor.
Want to date a guy who loves you for who you are? You already know him—he's your best guy friend.
You can spend your whole life looking for the man who loves you for who you truly are, knows about your oddest behaviors and still accepts you, or you can pick up your phone and call your best guy friend—because he already is that man. It may be weird to start thinking of him in "that way" but it all comes down to two words: shared history. Need more? Here are ten reasons to help push you over the edge.
Why dating your best friend may be your best bet to finding true love.
There's nothing quite like feeling a spark of attraction between you and someone you just met. Lately though, we've been wondering whether it's better to date a friend, or at least somebody we've known longer than just a couple of weeks, and who knows more about us than just our name and phone number. Sure, the transition from friend-to-boyfriend might feel a little sticky at first, but here are five benefits that overrule the awkwardness.
Why it's not always a great idea for him to know every single thing about you.
The first time I met him, I thought my now-boyfriend was a really cool guy, and I hoped we would become friends. Now, this man is not only boyfriend—he is my closest friend now, too, the one who knows everything about what goes on with my family, what goes on at work, what weird dreams woke me up in the middle of the night. And I'm not entirely sure that's a good thing.
I've always told her everything, but now I feel too guilty to lift the phone for a chat.
The better question isn't whether you would tell your BFF that you slept with her ex, but whether you'd sleep with her ex in the first place. Conversely, could any of you ever find it in your heart to give your friend your blessing if she slept with your ex and wanted to pursue a relationship with him?
