Want to know if you're compatible with your man? Learn your attachment style and find out!
Can you remember what was going on in your life from birth to about six years old? Probably not, but rest assured you were doing something that affects you deeply to this very day: forming your attachment style. We form our attachment styles early based on the availability and responsiveness of our parents. When we're young, if our needs are met in a warm, loving, stable environment, then we have a better chance of growing into adults who can attach to others in healthy ways. If our need for support and reassurance was not met, it can lead to problems attaching to others and forging healthy relationships later in life.
We all know that when our primary relationship is distressed, we feel anxious and depressed. We also know that depression can have a devastating effect on an intimate relationship. It becomes a vicious cycle. There have been numerous studies documenting this fact. Relationships with a depressed partner are often characterized by negative communication, blame, withdrawal, irritability, loss of motivation, and loss of sexual interest. It has also been shown that there is a reduction in positive behavior such as eye contact, smiling, and the ability to enjoy pleasurable activities together.
Don’t be so sure. “Love” means many different things.
Love: the word means different things to different people—and different things to the same person at different times.
What’s in a word? Here are some meanings of “love:”
Erotic love. We all know what this one means. It’s what we mean when we say we're “in love.” It’s “I want to have your babies”—or sometimes just “I want to have your body”. It also tends to burn out over time.
We were all traumatized as children in some way. We were hurt, scared, betrayed, humiliated, and/or were lonely. Experiencing trauma is a fundamental and inevitable aspect of being human. It is what we do with this trauma and how we manage it that becomes “the fundamental stuff of our lives” and the lens with which we come to view reality. As individuals, we may have decided to “get over it” and put it out of our mind or dismiss this trauma in other ways.
Everything you've heard about attachment parenting is not true. Read the science, save your sanity.
After giving birth the first time, I stayed home for three months, and then began leaving my son with a babysitter for a few hours a day so I could get a break from his colic and ease back into work. When my second son came along, I had a demanding job I loved and didn't want to lose. So I went back to it full time after just a month, only to find myself so exhausted and alienated from my role as a mother [now with two children under six] that I quit my job, took my eight week-old out of full time day care and basically did the same thing with him I'd done with his older brother.
Are you aware that the Chakra system can be used as an instruction manual for your relationships?
You probably are familiar with the old traditional Chakra system philosophy. But may not be aware that the Chakra system can be used as an instruction manual for your relationships. It can give you a strategy about how you can communicate with your inner guidance and be able to manifest your dreams and ideas into your realationships and create a complete alignment in your life Now.
How divorce affects the bonds parents have with their kids
Divorce is difficult psychologically, emotionally and financially for adults. It is considered the most profoundly difficult life transition besides the loss of a loved one by death. There is evidence that children experience the effects of divorce even more keenly than adults. This is because, to children, their family's divorce seems to occur suddenly and they have no real control over their situation (Page, 2003).
Typically attachment research focuses on birth-18 months, but you can bond with your kids at any age
Typically attachment research focuses on birth-18 months, but you can bond with your kids at any age
Most of us know that a secure attachment to an attuned parent contributes enormously to a child’s developing sense of self, emotional resilience, and capacity for intimacy. Research has shown that when a child forms a strong attachment with a stable and loving caregiver in the first five years of life, his psychological health will be influenced for the better.
10 tips to create kids with healthy attachment and secure bonding with their parents.
10 tips to create kids with healthy attachment and secure bonding with their parents.
10 tips to create kids with healthy attachment and secure bonding with their parents.
Children are sponges. As cliché as it may sound, there isn’t a better visual metaphor. As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and as a parent of two children, it is my opinion that today’s society is still in need of educating parents about the profound necessity for secure attachments between a parent and a child.
A conversation with Dr. Helen Fisher about relationships in 2011.
What attracts you to someone when you first meet them? What keeps the passion alive in a relationship? How do turn-ons change over time? These were some of the questions on a recent survey conducted by YourTango, Glo.com and Chemistry.com. Over 20,000 people took the survey and the results were analyzed by Dr. Helen Fisher, a biological anthropologist and author of numerous influential books on love. You can see all the results at www.RekindleAttraction.com. Here, we talk with Dr. Fisher about sex, love and the new age of relationships.
