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5 (More!) Sex Moves Women Love, But Are Afraid To Ask For
What are you too nervous to ask for in bed?

5 (More!) Sex Moves Women Love, But Are Afraid To Ask For

Ladies, it's time to ask for what you want in bed.

I've never been afraid to ask for what I want in bed. The idea that some women can't ask for what they want, or don't know what they want in the first place, is foreign to me. However, I'm well-aware that I may not be in the majority here. Guys have told me other women become self-conscious when asking for something risqué or kinky — and that's a crying shame.

The One Problem With Being His F%@K Buddy

The One Problem With Being His F%@K Buddy

"How in the hell did this happen when all I wanted was sex?" You have this one hormone to thank.

Well first let's define F%&! Buddy. According to Urbandictionary.com definition numero 6. (The explanation our relationship coaches liked most) breaks it down pretty clear: F%@K Buddy: All the benefits of having a relationship minus the bullshit like acting interested in Every Word He Says, trying to sleep through mega-hertz snores, feeling like shit when he can't use a calendar to remem

7 Positions to Sleep in that Will Excite the Man of Your Dreams

7 Positions to Sleep in that Will Excite the Man of Your Dreams

Positions that are sure to have your man wanting nothing more than to be between the sheets with you

  Body language reveals our true feelings, and your relationship partner has no trouble with picking up on this physical queue. But what does your body language say while you are sleep? Are there sleeping positions that will excite the man of your dreams? In sleep, we are our most honest, vulnerable selves and certain sleep positions can immediately evoke sensual thoughts and pleasures.

Understanding Why Men Climax So Fast

Understanding Why Men Climax So Fast

With mind control, we can control our climax, but this usually requires some far-off thought.

  We’ve received this question from many women and have decided to address it here. As we often repeat, we’re here to help you understand how we think, and why we do what we do. The more you understand about us, the less confused you’ll be, and the easier it will be for you to have an open, successful relationship with the man of your dreams.

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Why I Pass On Using The Back Door, All The Time

Not every dude wants to stick it where the sun don't shine.

Some call it the final frontier. Whereas the vagina is the entry point of life, the anus is the terminus of the human digestive process. The alpha and the omega. Yet this rear entry (exit, really) holds a mystique and allure that 995 of the 1,001 Arabian nights can't even sniff. Is it the taboo? Is it the fit? Is it a power thing? Whatever the case, you can count me out.

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Get Blown Away, Louisiana! Oral Sex Is Now Legal

Louisiana residents may finally engage in oral and anal sex without criminal consequences.

Believe it or not, if Bayou State residents were convicted of "unnatural carnal copulation" (aka oral and anal sex), they were at risk of being charged with a felony and forced to register as a sex offender. In addition to the charge, the label was also branded on driver's licenses. Looks like the Scarlet Letter had some competition, Hester Prynne.

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5 Fascinating Sex Facts From Largest Sex Survey

The National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior reveals some eyebrow raising facts about sex.

Today we received a slew of bite-sized facts stemming from the mother of all sex surveys, The National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior accumulated by researchers at The Center for Sexual Health Promotion at Indiana University. The scientists asked 5, 865 people aged 14-94 all sorts of questions about everything from masturbation to condom use to homosexual experimentation.

Rough Hands Are Bad For Men's Sex & Orgasm

Eric Amaranth's blog on what he's doing to combat the never mentioned issue of penis desensitization due to solo sex with rough hands from weightlifting. This kind of subtle effect over time will degrade men's enjoyment of vaginal or anal intercourse.

"Sexy" Gifts That Women Don't Actually Like

"Sexy" Gifts That Women Don't Actually Like

Sorry guys, some gifts are more embarrassing than sexy.

Some might say a lacy teddy or a feather tickler is more of a gift for him than for me—selfish, even. But I love sexy holiday gifts. Not only am I a little greedy when it comes to my lingerie drawer, but I love the reminder that my guy thinks I'm a sex goddess! That said, I get why some guys are afraid to shop for lingerie. The best sexy-gift shopping occurs through interpreting another person's fantasies; the gift should really reflect the way the woman sees herself in bed, not the way the man sees his lady. If she's classy, then don't go klassy. In my mind, I'm burlesque star Dita Von Teese in bed, so I'll be bewildered, to say the least, by a present in the style of Boob Job McGee, Tara Reid.

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What Counts As Sex?

How to distinguish between having sex and messing around. Definitions vary.

How to distinguish between having sex and messing around. Definitions vary. Fifteen years after Lewinskygate you'd think we'd all have it figured out, but it seems we don't. Teenagers who haven't had intercourse are having oral sex and calling themselves virgins. Heterosexual couples who are in the early throes of a relationship say they still haven't gone all the way even if they've heavily petted.

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7 Greatest Things About Having A Small Chest

Being small in the bust isn't all bad. In fact, a petite rack comes with some big advantages.

They're the butt of more than a few jokes. They're an embarrassment to many of their owners. They're something that few men's magazines celebrate or even acknowledge. They're small breasts. And despite everything, we think they're fabulous.