In today's confusing world of laissez-faire sexts and the subtle pressure from a media culture that can make you feel as if you're nobody until somebody loves you, is sex as important as we think?
We live in a society that has us believe that if we're not getting any, then our life is a failure. OK, that might be dramatic. But if you're not getting laid your friends often look at you with pity in their eyes, as they try to console you with promises that you'll have sex again, someday, even if that someday is five years from now.
Some athletes are known for being especially…friendly in the romance department. But there is a small group of athletes who are holding off, keeping a tight hold on their v-cards. From football to basketball, the common denominator is a determination to abstain until they are married. Who, you ask? Read on to find out.
Question: My question is this…how long do you wait to sleep with a man…one month, two months, more? Since my eventual goal is to be married, how do I know that the man I’m dating sees me in his future and not just as a nine-month, ten-month, or even one-night stand? ...Camille
Your decision to remain celibate is based on your own, personal, selfish desire to meet the man of your dreams and avoid getting hurt. You want the rewards of a relationship without the collateral damage, and you are using your body – instead of your brain – as a bargaining tool.
Societal pressures say we should consummate our relationships by the third date. But what if you're uninterested in sex, want to wait until you are married, or are physically unable to do the deed? It can be hard to find (and keep) a date for those who want loving relationships without physical intimacy. But not anymore: 2date4love.com is the online dating site for you if you count yourself among the sexless.
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As a teenager, I had secretly assumed that many of these restrictions were out-dated and unnecessary, thus I decided to try and intellectually prove that premarital sex fit into that category. Over a period of months, whenever I had free time I would dive into the index of my Bible and search for all the verses that said anything at all about sex. I read over them carefully, searching for a loophole—some fact, some story, some statement that I could pluck up and use as my justification.
I'm a guy who really enjoyed his (soon to be) wife. But I felt like I was supposed to stop having sex with this woman. My prayers went something like this: "Really God? That's what you want me to do? But we're getting married in just a couple months. What's the big deal about it? Isn't getting married enough? Why do we need to stop having sex?" I never got up the courage to pray about moving out. I was afraid of what the answer might be.
Couples who wait 'til "I do" to do it might be happier with the quality of sex and enjoy a stable, happier marriage than couples who have sex before they take their vows. So says a new study which appears in the Journal of Family Psychology.
In any other sense of the word, I wouldn't tolerate using someone or being used. I won't date someone for his social status, befriend someone for the simple goal of getting ahead professionally, and I most certainly wouldn't sleep with an older man in exchange for being taken care of. But here I was sleeping with people because they were there, because my body had an urge, one that I clearly didn't feel the need to examine.
On my sixteenth birthday my dad gave me an abstinence ring. It was yellow gold that wrapped around my finger into the shape of a small heart. "This is to remind you to stay pure until you get married," he said when I put it on. Secretly, I thought the ring was ugly.
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He does not want to sleep with me. It's been three weeks and nothing. Not just nothing—I mean the complete absence of sexuality in an awkward, platonic way. We go out to dinner several nights a week and we kiss, hug, and hold hands in public. I've met most of his friends at this point and we've even spent nights together. And yet, nothing. I have tried every trick in the book to get him to seal the deal—I've smooched and even fondled him. And yet Matt remands steadfast and as abstinent as a priest.
Recently Bristol and mom Sarah Palin made a headline-grabbing appearance on Oprah where one of the bigger headlines came out of Bristol's vow to abstain from sex and remain celibate until marriage. Whether you see this as a sincere vow of a teen mom humbled by the grown-up situation she's put herself in, or a as a publicity stunt aimed at boosting her and her ambitious mother's conservative image, celibacy is a movement that is gaining attention in both the teen and adult worlds as a lifestyle choice.