We are about to dive into another sexual revolution but it's not going to be led by 30 somethings!
Erica Jong, known best for her book “Fear of Flying” is waxing poetic in the Sunday New York Times about what has happened to the sex lives of the younger generation. According to Jong, younger women are yearning for the nostalgia of a 50’s era happily ever after notion of monogamy, marriage and motherhood. Jong says it’s a kind of rebellion and a desire for control.
In the NYT Magazine, Dan Savage suggests non-monogamy as an antidote to infidelity in marriage.
With each new sex scandal splashed across headlines, it's become impossible to hide from the realities of marriage, i.e., monogamy is hard. And with so many high-profile persons seemingly shirking fidelity, it's easier for couples unsatisfied in their relationship to start wondering if these cheating politicians just may have the right idea. It's these concerns and questions that The New York Times Magazine took on when reaching out to leading sex-advice columnist, Dan Savage for their recent exploration of monogamy and marriage.
The New York Times recently featured a study of 6,000 Australian women that revealed significant weight gain after marrying or even moving in with a significant other. Keeping our waistlines while cohabiting in domestic bliss comes down to being vigilant with how we eat. And, perhaps we could all aim to be a little sportier with our significant others. Go bike riding, take up a class at the gym, train for a marathon, play kickball or the Wii, even. Or if you really aren't the sweat-in-public type, at the very least you could aim to have more athletic sex.
The New York Times seems to think men are getting fatter. Is this cool with women?
The New York Times thinks hipster men have pot bellies because they are rebelling against Barack Obama's washboard abs and think six-packs aren't masculine.
We think some couples want to upgrade marriages like they do iPhones.
Ross Douthat wrote an interesting Op-Ed piece in the The New York Times titled 'The Way We Love Now' which analyzes the state of love, marriage and romantic contentment in 2009. Douthat wonders if we as a society have morphed into a culture of bed-hopping, cheating hearts and sexless, impossibly unsatisfied curmudgeons.
From full bladders, Ugg boots and leg braces, these fetishes aren't traditionally sexy.
Our sexual fetish curiosity was piqued when we read about The Human Carpet last week in The New York Times. This got us thinking: what other odd fetishes do people enjoy? We got a little pervy on the Internet and found out. The Crush Fetish, Anthropomorphic furry fetish, Paraplegic Fetish, Omorashi Fetish and shoe fetish all make the list.
The New York Times has us rethinking our opposition to arranged marriage.
The New York Times' Modern Love had a rather charming essay yesterday ("An Arranged Marriage, Then And Now") where the narrator discusses his situation in the same cool, detached Western way in which we discuss all of our bodily exchanges. He (Farahad Zama) is a "well-brought-up boy" of Indian descent who went the traditional route and agreed to marry his neighbor's daughter after only spending 45 minutes with her.I Hope My Daughter Marries...
When she was presented to him, he describes her as "cute" (cute enough, we presume) and "nodded in approval." It all sounds horribly romantic. Almost in the same vain as us Westerners nod in approval to whomever we're seated next at our neighborhood bar once it reaches witching hour. So they married, have two sons, and the arrangement has (dare we say) worked splendidly. Do they disagree? Sure. Do they have their differences? Absolutely. But if given a second shot at it, would the narrator have done anything differently? No.
Sure, sex isn't everything. But a complete lack of it could spell the end of a marriage.
The New York Times ran a Q and A with Georgia State sociology professor Denise A. Donnelly who is very successfully building a case that a sexless marriage may not only be a deciding factor for divorce, but a state that a marriage has little chance of ever recovering from. But big picture, it may not be lack of sex but unequal desire that causes problems. If both parties are pleased as punch being platonic bedmates, than fair enough. But more realistically, one wants sex and the other is resistant. Even more, after a partner's advances have been thwarted off one too many times, Donnelly says the marriage has little chance of recovering.
