The Frisky
I've had crushes on women my entire life, but I've never gotten around to dating one.
When I was leaving for college, my high school friends predicted two things would occur once I fled the nest, away from my WASP-y parents: 1) I'd become a chain smoker to complete my poetry-reading, philosophy-pondering image, and 2) I'd get it on with girls. The Frisky: Documentary Suggests All Women Are Gay
After four years at hippie-dippy NYU, surprisingly, neither of these predictions came true. Alas, while I still have no interest whatsoever in getting lung cancer, I do still have an interest in hooking up with girls. Except these days, I'm pretty much convinced it's never going to happen. … Read More
I've always told her everything, but now I feel too guilty to lift the phone for a chat.
Perhaps the better question isn't whether you would tell your BFF that you slept with her ex, but whether you'd sleep with her ex in the first place. And maybe a more interesting question is: how would you react if your best friend confessed she slept with your ex? A woman writing to the Daily Mail's advice columnist, Rowan Pelling, may find out the answer to that very question. In her letter to Pelling, she writes: The Frisky: 5 Friends You Don't Need
Six months ago, my best friend split up with her boyfriend of five years. She was desperately in … Read More
Snooping on your partner is nosy and an invasion of privacy, but is that always a bad thing?
I used to be one of those self-righteous types who declared I'd sooner break up with a man than stoop to snoop. This stance wasn't because I was noble or had never been tempted—I'm not and I have. I just remember all too well the day my mother read my journal aloud to my entire family. I was 17 and, as you can probably imagine, that book was bursting to the seams with embarrassing, angst-laden, mawkish, teenage drama. To say I was mortified ... well, that doesn't begin to describe the way I felt. The Frisky: Dear Wendy: "Should … Read More
Learn how to get through to him.
Men are not the masters of the subtle. We're the sex that laughs at farts and watches Jean-Claude Van Damme movies, and we wouldn't know subtlety if it hit us over the head with a brick (which it probably wouldn't do, since, you know, it's subtlety and all).
As such, many of us have problems when it comes to dealing with women. Women communicate very subtly, and guys are looking for something more along the lines of a large neon sign declaring that you're willing to sleep with us or that you'd like to see us thrown through a plate glass … Read More
Turn us on outside of the bedroom with these sexy hobbies.
Just like women, men can woo with their extra skills. Dudes can do things that'll make any woman weak in the knees, even out of the bedroom. So gents, if you want our attention, here are some ways you can make your spare time sexy.
1. Volunteer Fireman/Military Reserves: So noble, so sexy. Come and get us in the uniform. The Frisky: Clothes Do Not Make The Man
2. Photographer/Artist/Filmmaker: You chase beauty and us. That’s so flattering that you can get a chick naked just by saying it’s for "art."
3. Dance Machine: If … Read More
It sounds like a good idea, but the red eye to heartbreak is fueled with sweet nothings.
There are only two reasons why I'd move in and live with another girlfriend. We're married and determined to fill a sweatshop with our nimble-fingered love critters. Or she cracks me in the head with a shovel, sews my mouth shut, replaces my eyeballs with marbles, and sits my stuffed body in the corner. Whatever you do, don't move in with your boyfriend. What? It's too late? Sweet Zeus, Odin, and Quetzalcoatl, winged serpent god of the Aztecs! I hope your cohabitation doesn't end the way two (two!) of mine did – with helicopters launching off the roof amidst tornadoes … Read More
When you hit thirty, your biological clock begins ticking, and loudly.
Ask almost any childless women in her 30s to name five things that have been on her mind lately, and there's a good chance she'll mention her biological clock. It may not be the first thing she names—her career, the economy, saving for a house, her parents' health, the health of her relationship, finishing her dissertation, fitting back into her skinny jeans, and finding someone to share her life with may be getting more of her attention; but for a vast majority of us, the idea of having kids is something we think about nearly as much, if not more, … Read More
Because it's better to take your chances getting pregnant than to be fat!
Not to get all TMI on you—we're all friends here, though, aren't we?—but my husband and I are thinking about changing up our birth control to the ol' pull-out method. Actually, correction: I'm thinking about it and he's biding his time, not saying too much, hoping I come to my senses before my prescription for the Pill runs out. The Frisky: MERRIme, A Web Comedy About Online Dating
But the thing is, I'm beginning to hate the Pill. While I'm not experiencing the emotional side effects that I have in the past—thank God!—I am suffering from what I call … Read More
Because it's not us... it's you.
We're not going to lie. Women are a fickle sort. When it comes to sex, some women like this, some women like that, and some women don't know what the hell they want. One thing we are sure of, though, is if you're bad in bed—at least, in our opinion. Maybe it's us. Maybe it's you. But if the sparks aren't flying when we're banging uglies, it could be because we think you don't have what it takes in the bedroom. What's up with that? The Frisky: 7 Sexual Partners That Don't (Have To) Count
You're A Two-Pump Chump. … Read More
Does a past history of domestic violence automatically disqualify him as relationship material?
There are dealbreakers and then there are dealbreakers—and a past history of domestic violence is a dealbreaker on a lot of people's list. Salon.com's advice columnist, Cary Tennis, fielded a question from a former abuser who's nervous about telling his new girlfriend he physically abused his ex-wife half a dozen times during their marriage. The Frisky: Helping A Friend Who's Being Hit
After divorcing, "Ex-Abuser," as he signed his letter, entered therapy and said it helped him "understand my reasons for the abuse, and the effect it had on both my wife and our relationship." Also after the divorce, … Read More