Up until recently, keeping score was something only sleazebags did to show off to their jealous friends. These days, it seems to be something of a trend: Everyday people keeping track of and sharing their sexual histories online. From "sex management tools" to diaries spilling all the dirty details, the web is rife with people airing their bedroom affairs. Famous London Call Girl Reveals True Identity

Prior to reading Violet Blue's San Francisco Chronicle article, we hadn't heard or seen the term "sex management tool." Take 10 seconds and guess what that is. It feels pretty vague, doesn't … Read More

I haven't freaked out about my age in a while. And I'm not about to. Promise! But aging does seem to be a frequent topic with my friends. I talk eye cream with Sofia, babies with Betsy, and birthdays with my sister (she will be 32 next month). 5 Things Married Women Miss

Ironically, the older I get, the less scary aging seems. I'm finding encouragement everywhere. The current issue of More magazine lists 10 celebrities who had their first babies after 40. It was a very impressive list! And it makes me feel like I still have a … Read More

How much debauchery is too much debauchery?

This is what New York City's bawdy, burlesque night club, The Box, is grappling over after after a New York magazine feature described the over-the-top sexual performances that go on inside in graphic detail. The Box features more than just your run-of-the-mill pole dancing...but you'll have to read the piece for all the juicy details.

I've been to enough burlesque performances to tell you urinating on the crowd is not a common occurrence. And maybe that is what allegedly made The Box so cool. (I say "allegedly cool" because the … Read More

Echoing the question on most lips (and one addressed at length on this site) following Eliot Spitzer's notorious outed outing with a prostitute, New York magazine's cover story this week asks: what makes married men want to have affairs?

The brave writer, Philip Weiss, admits that though he hasn't acted on them, he can relate to Spitzer's urges. Whether you're thinking this is another sign of immorality pervading society or "Yeah, what took you so long? Get on the open relationship bandwagon, buddy," it's clear the subject is not to be ignored.

Kind of like drinking … Read More

Yesterday my husband walked into our day-old home, a condo furnished with hundreds of boxes from our former house, and he didn't smile. Moving isn't easy.

We had pulled up stakes from a place we loved. Our roots were still raw.

Clay Felker and I have been through many moves. Painful as they were, some of them saved our relationship. One may have saved his life. This year we will celebrate our 20th wedding anniversary, a milestone that amazes friends who had to play Rolodex tag with each of us during the 17 years of our turbulent premarital relationship. We … Read More