Psychiatrist Carole Lieberman thinks she's got men all figured out, and since I'm too daft to know otherwise, let's assume that she does. Let's assume that she's the Dr. Love we've been looking for, that she's the Mr. Miyagi to our Daniel LaRusso, the George Washington to our Revolutionists, the answer to our prayers. In her new book, "Bad Girls," Lieberman extols the virtues of being, predictably, a bad girl. Intrigued?
We’ve been married for 13 years and during this time we’ve learned that just about everything we’ve expected from love and marriage is the opposite of our actual lives. We’ve discovered there’s no such thing as happily-ever-after so we’ve opted for the more realistic “ever after.” We may not be blissed out every minute of the day, but in our “ever after,” we're raising a kid together we madly adore, we’re cracking each other up, and as far as we can tell there isn’t anyone else we’d rather spend our lives with. It’s in this spirit of lowered expectations that we’d like to share a few of things we’ve gleaned from our relationship.
Our man-panel discusses ways to maintain some mystery in your relationship.
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Dating coaches are not really not that new. Literature and commonsense tells us that the profession has been around since day one. But is the lessons from a dating coach really that much different from the advice of a pickup artist? Our friends at College Humor help us explore.
In this author's opinion, a woman looks her best with a healthy amount eye makeup but not too much. So glom on a little eye-liner, eyeshadow, mascara and then remove some and keep the mystery in your love life alive.
Pick-up artistry is the idea that there's a certain set of actions that, when used, will make women swoon, give you their phone number and go home with you. The idea entered pop culture in 2005 with the book The Game, and reached its nadir in "The Pick-Up Artist," the Vh1 show where Mystery, a pick-up artist, showed regular guys how to land dates. To me, pick-up artistry has two sides. It's good if it teaches socially awkward guys skills to interact with people and if it instills confidence in guys who are afraid they have no game. But the word "game" is part of the problem. When guys start to think about getting girls as prizes for winning the competition the idea goes too far. In fact these techniques actually hurt men, because they pretend to teach confidence but really they're teaching false security. Men aren't learning how to connect with women, they're learning how to trick women into thinking they're genuine, which may feel better at the club or bar, but is actually worse in the long run.
Neil Strauss author of 'The Rules Of The Game,' a book about pickup artistry, is coming out with a series of MySpace videos. He's having Bud Bundy and Parker Lewis put his principles to practice in time for Valentines Day.
