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6 Lessons From Jennifer Lopez And Marc Anthony's Divorce

6 Lessons From Jennifer Lopez And Marc Anthony's Divorce

Looking at the six love lessons to take away from Marc Anthony and JLo's marriage and divorce.

Another celebrity marriage has gone by the wayside. Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony are no more. Now that the media hubub has died down, there are certain things we might be able to learn and apply for our marriages. You would think that after a while, there wouldn't be anything we could learn from a celebrity divorce. But its not true. I think we can always learn something, so we don't have to repeat mistakes of others! Not that I wish harm on anyone or any relationship - that isn't the case at all. Just that when bad things do happen, we can observe, learn, and try not to let things creep into our own relationships that might be problematic.

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3 Tips To Prepare Yourself For Marriage

Preparing yourself for marriage is even more important than preparing yourself for the wedding day.

We spend lots of money and time preparing for the wedding day. The penguin suits and puffy white dresses, cakes, champagne, the guests, where the service will be, then the reception. A lot of work for just a few hours of time. Often, we spend more time and energy preparing for the wedding, than we do preparing for the marriage. What would happen if we actually prepared ourselves for marriage, not just the wedding? What might that ‘preparing the garden’ process look like? Read on for three tips to prepare YOUR garden for marriage!

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Man Up: 10 Things Men Can Do To Have a Better Marriage

Marriage doesn't come with a manual, so here are 10 tips for men from a father and husband.

After watching my parents in their marriage, and learning what works and what doesn't on my own, here are 10 things men can do to better their marriages right away.

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In Marriage, Sharing Chores Should Be A Given—Not A Special Treat

Does doing the dishes count as an act of love or a simple life responsibility?

Do you think you're doing your spouse a great act of love when you do the laundry or take out the trash? I would challenge you to rethink that. Responsibilities of life are different than really loving your spouse. So what is love really? Read on to find out.

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Why Lingerie Might Be A Terrible Valentine's Day Gift

This husband learns what Valentine's Day love is all about, and it isn't sexy lingerie.

The look, size and color were just right. I was excited. But the conversation we had about the upcoming love holiday made me rethink what I thought was a loving gesture.

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Watching The Super Bowl Could Help Your Marriage

The Superbowl is one way that you can make a connection as a couple to deepen your relationship.

Do you enjoy the things your spouse does? You don't have to like them all, but pick a couple to enjoy together. It will help your marriage grow as you connect in more ways than just the bedroom. The Superbowl is one way that you can make a connection as a couple to deepen your relationship.

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7 Tips For Setting Goals In Your Marriage

Forget personal goals. This year, make your resolutions about your marriage.

Goal setting is always a big deal in the first days of a new year. How often do you hear about couples setting goals though? Not so often. Here are some ideas to get you thinking about marriage goals in 2011.

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How to Tell Your Kids About Santa

Telling your kids the truth about Santa is also an opportunity to strengthen your marriage.

While you may have differing ideas of when and what to tell your kids about the big elf in the red suit. Having the talk about Santa is a time to come together as a couple and a family. And, no matter your experience with Mr. Claus, telling your kids the truth about Santa can be an opportunity to strengthen your relationship. Here are some things you can consider together as a couple to help ease the pain:

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6 Gifts You Should Give Your Spouse All Year Long

From grace to quality time, there are six free holiday gifts we can give our spouses all year long.

I love Christmas. Its a great time of year for family, getting together, Peppermint Mocha from Starbucks, and gifts. Gifts rock. I like getting them. My wife and I differ on gift giving - she is one who likes to give ‘experiences’ not ‘stuff’. A trip together would be a better gift, in her mind, than say, diamond earrings. I'm the opposite, I like getting 'stuff'. I don't connect with ‘experience’ as much as I do a physical ‘gift’. No matter what your gift giving style is, this time of year is a great reminder of the gifts we should be giving throughout the year, and if it takes this particular season to help us remember what we need to be doing more often, that's a good thing.

Traffic School Helped My Marriage

Traffic School Helped My Marriage

Why "Inattention Blindness" can hurt your marriage.

Saturday was my day to go to traffic school. I had to report there before November so my ticket for driving 50 in a 30 doesn't go on my record. When I reported to the class at 8:30 that morning, I never thought I would leave with information to help my marriage. Here is some of what I learned.

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We Celebrate Halloween As A Family

The family that dresses up for Halloween together, stays together.

What happens when two grown adults who like to dress up on Halloween have a child? Well, he gets to be part of the madness, until he wants to begin deciding for himself what he wants to be for Halloween. What are his parents to do? Especially since he keeps changing his mind?