Each day we make choices that influence our pace and quality of life, and often we’re completely unaware of the choices we’re making and how they affect our life balance. So often we’re operating from habit, instinct or need. While it’s a good thing that we don’t have to think about every little choice we make, when it comes to creating a balance between our “work-related activities” and the “rest-of-our-life activities”, it’s critical to be conscious and deliberate about our decisions. Otherwise, you may find yourself feeling the negative effect of your unconscious choices by feeling overwhelmed, out of control, stressed, or even sick. Start to become more aware of the many decisions you have to make in a day and their consequences by asking yourself these three questions: 1. Is this moving me toward or away from a balanced life? 2. Do I have a choice? 3. If I don’t have a choice, what can be a positive perspective around this decision?
Why is it that when we're upset, stressed, or scared we instinctively reach for our partner's hand? Or conversely, why is it that we always seem to reach for our partner's hand to comfort them when they're upset? Well a recent study by University of Virginia psychologist, Dr. James Coan, showed that the answer doesn't lie between our fingers, but in our brains. The study involved subjecting 16 happily-married women to stressful situations while monitoring their brain activity. The results showed less activity in the stress-related areas of the women's brains even while holding a stranger's hand, and a whole lot less when they held their hubby's hand.
Dr. John Gray gives advice to a woman who is trying to balance the stress of work with her relationship. The secret? Dr. John Gray reveals two ways you can reduce stress when you get home from work.
First thing first: Can you go the distance? If you have a deep bank account, lots of frequent flier miles, a flexible work schedule or a desire to get out of town, seeing a partner far away can be feasible and fun. But if you're already on a budget, hurting for vacation days or hate traveling, flying off to see a partner can become miserable—well before you reach elite traveler status.
Most couples experience conflict in the weeks (and even months!) building up to their nuptials. The pre-wedding stress coupled with the anticipation of a brand-new life ahead often leads to friction. Here are some tips on how to minimize, pre-wedding friction.
Making your mark in the business world requires for plenty of sacrifices, but one thing that should never be sacrificed is the goal of maintaining a healthy, loving relationship. As you methodically build your kingdom, keep the four next tips in mind, for they will help ensure that you'll have a contented lover sitting happily beside your throne.
When your spouse comes home from work and tells you his boss yelled at him in front of three colleagues, do you one-up him with tales of the client who reamed you out in a meeting—and later spilled his coffee on your shirt? If this sounds familiar you may be getting sucked into "misery poker." In a new relationship-focused Wall Street Journal column called Bonds, author Elizabeth Bernstein explores the phenomenon of funereal one-upmanship: trying to outdo each other with tales of woe.
Poll: Does Work Stress Affect Your Relationship?: Yes. I'm in a terrible mood after work, he hates to be around me. Sometimes. We try our best, but stress sneaks into our relationship on occasion. No. I'm able to leave my work stress at the office. Not anymore, I just got laid off!