Who doesn't want a healthy and satisfying sex life? And yet, a substantial and growing percentage of people struggle with low libido and sexual dysfunction issues. Overcoming this challenge in order to benefit from the many emotional and physical benefits of lovemaking should be on the top of your list when you consider that hundreds of major medical studies correlate an active sex life with a longer life, better heart health, a healthier immune response, reduction in chronic pain symptoms, lower rates of depression and even protection against some cancers.
I found myself pacing. Walking back and forth with really nothing in hand. Trying to find something, anything, that would satisfy. On the last walk-through, I realized I wasn’t dealing with the real issue. I wasn’t hungry but I was taking out my stress in the kitchen. With the final pass-through I realized what was going on. I wasn’t hungry, I was feeling anxious. I was anxious about a zillion little things that apparently have been building throughout the entire day.
How does the stress of being a busy mom affect us? We overeat, do not exercise, and of course our sex life goes kaput, as does our intimacy with our partner, our confidence and our self-esteem. More and more, we see mothers suffering from the deadly disease of perfectionism. You assume that to "do it right," you must execute all tasks flawlessly and ignore the need for self-care. In turn, we see higher rates of exhaustion-related illnesses, low self-esteem and partner-related issues, due to mother's burn out. It's time to drop the "supermom" ideal.
The epicenter of the 5.8 magnitude earthquake yesterday was less than 30 miles away from me and my family. Sometimes it takes a big "shake" to make us wake up and really commit to drinking our veggies and whey protein on a daily basis. Our ability to deal with a stressful event, such as an unexpected earthquake that's nowhere near a fault line, is directly influenced by our diet. Eating a diet that is predominantly raw fruits, vegetables, and protein sources with supplemental minerals and nutrients gives us the most bang for the calories and money.
According to a recent report by the World Economic Forum, poor job security, increased workload, and a lingering recession are leading causes of job burnout and stress. All of us have suffered job burnout from time to time, but the conditions are more severe and widespread now. There is a deeper sense of exhaustion, cynicism and despondency.
Unfortunately, when Congress was at a standstill about raising the debt ceiling, Standard & Poor was unimpressed with how the United States was handling its fund. As a result, just this past weekend the S&P downgraded the country's credit rating from an elite AAA to a lesser AA+. Now, we're looking at wild swings in the DOW on Wall Street, financial analysts uttering the word "recession" again, and potentially higher interest rates as a result of the downgrade. Since finances are consistently a huge form of tension among couples, we were obviously concerned at this news. So to put things in perspective, we asked experts what the credit downgrade might mean for our love lives as we move through the rest of the year, and even farther into the future.
Let me start by saying I know plenty of young females in their 20’s who forget a child’s dentist appointment, or cupcakes for a school party, or even that they have something cooking in the oven. And it’s only the burning smell that reminds them they forgot to take dinner out on time. In fact, it makes me feel better - more normal - when I hear of the “younger generation” struggling with their forgetfulness.
Welcome to Hypnosis Silver Spring. I'm Donald Pelles, Ph.D. My website, www.hypnosissilverspring.com, is worth spending some time exploring. Are there issues in your life you seek to resolve, such as weight, smoking, anxiety, or chronic pain, IBS or Fibromyalgia? Did you know that pre-surgery hypnosis can lessen your bleeding and bruising, reduce your swelling and pain, and help you heal faster? And if your life feels "stuck", I will help you get un-stuck. Oh yes, and improve your golf game or your tennis while you're at it!
I first created a version of this Mini Relationship Tip four years ago, almost to the day. I've added to and edited this oldie but goodie, and I know you'll find a gem of "life alchemy" in here for yourself. You'll definitely NOT want to skip reading this one because at the end there is a piece of uber personal, amazingly timely news. ;-) August 2007:
I’m sitting at the Little Bakery, waiting for Marlena to meet me for lunch, and my cell phone rings. “Hi, it’s me.” Marlena. “Hey.” “I’m here on the Beltway, not going anywhere at the moment,” she says. “So, I’m going to be late.” “No problem – I’ve got something to read.” “I’m really sorry about this,” Marlena says, sounding stressed.
Is a long self-improvement list stuck on your refrigerator so you won’t forget any of the flaws in your personality that need improving? Do you have it taped to your bathroom mirror? Have you shared your goals with a friend who checks with you every day to see how well you are doing? Do you have an internal “personal improvement list” so you can change your relationship, career, personality, weight, or any of the other myriad goals we humans strive to improve in our lives? How do these lists help you?
It’s late evening, the kids are in bed and you are unwinding after a long, stressful day at work. You’re flipping through the channels on TV and find a show that captures your attention for an hour, but every commercial seems geared towards food. Even though you just ate 2 hours ago, the clips of pizzas with multiple toppings and cheese-filled crusts or the batter-fried chicken and mashed potatoes with gravy are tempting you.
It seems like everything that we moms do is subject to intense scrutiny and judged by the "good-mom-eter." If we dare stray from the straight and narrow we are automatically cast aside as evil women who are neglectful at best, abusive for sure and likely to end up having to pay for years of therapy.
Regardless of their personal belief systems (spiritual focus, formalized religion, or a combination thereof), people tend to like the comfort of feeling connected to those beings that support us from the other side, whether we believe "the other side" to be an alternate universe, a heavenly realm, etc. One reason people find this so comforting is that they like knowing that something greater than themselves is available for them from which they can seek or receive guidance and clarity.
A personal experience with a young son reminds us to embrace growth and change. My husband and I took our son for his first official haircut when he was 15 months old. The trauma of the event was not significant, but the energy exchange during the event was decidedly intense. My son went from sitting on my lap and enjoying the process while my husband entertained him to the opposite end of the spectrum, screaming and struggling to be let down. As you can imagine, it was an emotional roller coaster for all three of us.
At Mars Venus Coaching we talk a lot about oxytocin and its many benefits. There’s nothing like the rush of oxytocin to fuel your day. As a mom, as a daughter, as a friend, as a business woman—it doesn’t matter what title is attached to your name as a female, what matters is knowing how to produce oxytocin for yourself.
I try to be a happy person and I really am the vast majority of the time. I am usually that annoying Pollyanna who thinks everything is going to be all right. My down times are few and far between, but, man, when they happen they are fierce.