This time of year generally marks the start of new ways to live life; developing positive habits physically, emotionally and relationally. As a relationship coach, I understand how difficult it can be to make lasting changes in one’s mindsets regarding love. It is very easy to say one thing, but not follow through with actions that have a lasting affect on one’s relationship decisions. One of the barriers to creating a strong, intimate connection with an available, single guy is the presence of a former boyfriend in the picture. These former boyfriends are:
Have many of your dates amounted to nothing? If you are dating today, probably! Sometimes, it seem like a waste of time and energy? For sure. And yet, you have to date to meet someone worth meeting, right? Even though you are enjoying the freedom and fun of single life and are not nescessarily in a rush to find a long term partner, you still want to date quality people and have a satisfying love life.
Spirituality has been linked to mental health by a number of studies including one from the University of Missouri. While this study focused on how spirituality was linked to individual mental health, increased spirituality also helps in the area of forgiveness in couples.
The University of Missouri recently released findings that spirituality, regardless of particular religion or practice, can be uplifting for your mental health*. At One Whole Health, I see time and time again that not only can a regular spiritual practice improve your frame of mind, but it can even improve your marriage.
Sexuality is very important because it is our basic instinctual life force energy. We need to own it and embrace it and then that same energy can start moving through our whole body and our whole being. So essentially, we are moving on a journey which begins with sex and moves through 6 more doors of power and potential. These are: 1) sex 2) emotions 3) our soul calling 4) love and compassion 5) creativity 6) expanded consciousness and intuition 7) orgasmic oneness with the whole
Are you dateable or mateable? You'll love dating when you identify your dating goals and honor them as you choose the best people to date. Let's walk you through the process. What are your dating goals? How do they help you choose your best dates? If you seek instant intimacy in a casual fling, then your best date will share these goals and will not expect a serious relationship to develop. You are dateable, not mateable, unless your dating goals change. If you seek a healthy, happy relationship with lasting love, you are mateable.
Sadly, here in the America, there have been many obstacles to erotic spirituality that have been molded by two thousand years of sex-negative, Judeo-Christian influences and values. Make no mistake about it, the spiritual implications of sexual love and orgasmic pleasure have been profoundly threatening to our patriarchal religions. Their response has been to put up many formidable roadblocks to our right to freedom of sexual expression.
No controversy in religion is more laden with raw emotion than the argument as to whether sexual activity is, or is not, a necessary ingredient to spiritual expression. Down through the ages, as this sometimes-bitter dispute has raged, some of the most ruthless crimes have been and are still being committed by sex-negative patriarchal religious authorities.
Here’s the full question that arrived in my inbox: “I came from a background that doesn’t value the gifts that I have developed. How can I learn to value my spiritual, creative and emotional gifts enough to feel that they are worth being paid for? If I don’t value them and see them as marketable, who will?” Great question! Here’s what I say a thousand times to clients: how you vote on your value from one hour to the next is not reliable or even useful.
When some people get down, they turn to spirituality and religion in the hopes that it will turn things around providing them a lift. For others, feeling depressed makes them feel alienated from their higher power. A review of the literature shows that spirituality (more than religion) can help even a person who is clinically depressed. Here are some ways that you can draw on your spiritual side when emotionally you are feeling down:
I was checking for lipstick on my teeth or unseemly static cling before heading to my first "Full Moon" ceremony, a willing newbie ready for the New Age, when my husband came up behind me. "You look great," Gavin said, peering over my shoulder into the mirror. His gaze was frankly appreciative of my sensuous get-up. "What time do you think you'll be home?"
Close to my house, and on my way to just about every place I drive, there is a five way intersection. If you’ve ever been through a five way intersection, you know that things can get a little dicey when there are more than a couple cars at any one time. As long as everyone can count, and follows basic rules of courtesy, things can flow pretty smoothly. Introduce an uncertain or aggressive driver into the mix, however, and things can go bad very quickly!