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How does someone end up not having sex for 15 years? By accident, swears writer Kit Naylor on Salon.com. We've all had dry spells, but man, 15 years is one hell of a dry spell! Naylor is a middleaged woman, a self-described recluse with two cats and no kids. She calls herself "a spinster long past my sell-by date." Spinster! We think that's a sexist way to refer to herself, but nevertheless, we admire how she got that way: she wants to be in love to make love. It seems that by eschewing casual sex and being committed to personal integrity, she's condemning herself to accidental celibacy.
Today Love Buzz checks in on the thirty-six-year-old virgin who's been blogging on BlogHer. When we last reported, Always Beginning the World (perfect name, by the way) had learned that she is able to have sex, despite having been told by a doctor that she never would. She had met a man she liked, and had decided that she would stop cutting herself off from the world and try to become a sexual, sensual being. The next series of posts describe what Always Beginning The World is doing to prepare herself for a sexually active life. She's trying to open herself to new experiences, albeit ones that are pretty normal for the rest of us.
Despite the "quite a bit of sex" smeared on [Jane Austen's] life and work by the biopic Becoming Jane and virtually all the recent screen adaptations (notably the obnoxious Mansfield Park), the author of Pride and Prejudice (invariably voted best ever English novel) died intacta. All six of her major heroines are as virginal on the last page as they were on the first. Does the fact that Austen "never had it" make her a greater, or lesser, writer? Is chastity the enemy of literary genius?... Why cannot we accept that there is sexless greatness as well as hyper-sexual greatness? Jane Austen was a plain Jane. If she'd looked like Kate Winslet, and had as much glorious sex as Jordan, we would not - I fancy - have those wonderful novels.
Tales of a 36-Year-Old Virgin is a series of incredibly moving posts on BlogHer by a woman calling herself Always Beginning the World. ABW describes how, during her first OBGYN exam, the doctor told her that her vagina was too small to have sex, use tampons or even receive a pap smear. Twenty years later she learned the doctor was wrong.
A recent study showed that there are more single women in the US than ever before. Why is this (outside of population growth)? The reasons and rationales are numerous but two leading theories are that financial independence has made women more choosy and we, as Americans, are becoming narcissists. In addition, technology has, in many ways, sabotaged us. Facebook and its ilk aren't the solution to loneliness. The author's solution is to compromise a little, open human lines of communication, and leave Bridget Jones in the pages of her books.