If you decide to try speed dating, the old adage that in order to meet someone nice you need to "be yourself" is true...but there are certain exceptions to this rule. The first big problem with the term to "be yourself" is that it is so over used. Successive generations have given out this standard piece of advice to perplexed daters who have no idea what it means.
Awww, suburbia! Garages, yards, good public schools, sidewalks you can walk on, and when it comes to some places—like my home town in North Jersey--seven major shopping malls in a twenty-five mile radius! Parents and grandparents asking young people when they are going to get married? All the time! A singles scene that inspires you to get out of your sweatpants? Not so much!
Promiscuous dudes and down-to-earth girls may have the edge when it comes to dating. Well, at least in terms of speed dating. A new study published in Psychological Science found that people who fit their gender stereotypes—men who don't commit and women who are warm and trustworthy—are better able to judge their own attractiveness.
This guest article from Psych Central was written by Rick Nauert, Ph.D. Remember when you asked what your blind date looks like and your friend responded that he/she has a wonderful personality? Turns out, having certain personality traits influence whether someone else thinks you’re worth meeting again.
Earlier this month, YourTango celebrated the very first Break Up With Your Ex Day. In addition to providing readers with tons of tools and and advice on how to delete an ex from one's life, YourTango also teamed up with the folks behind the film Love Stalker in order to provide those in the New York area with a hands-on way to move on from the past and move forward with true love (or... um... unbridled lust).
Speed dating is a strange concept--no question there. Meeting strangers for three-minute increments, trying to decipher chemistry and compatibility before the bell rings, and then starting the get-to-know-you conversation all over again... Strange as it may be, it can be a lot of fun and, judging by its staying power, it's a decent way to meet someone. Before you give speed dating a try, check out some dos and don'ts from YourTango's Experts.
Whether married one year, five or fifty, there are tiny romantic things men can do to tell their wives they still care. Be careful with your compliments. Don't criticize your wife's housekeeping, body shape or cooking style, and then give her a little kiss on the cheek, even if you think you're doing her a favor. It's phony, and women don't buy it. Women like to feel acknowledged. If you come home to a disheveled house, give her that kiss on the cheek and ask if she had a bad day.
Speed Plating, celebrity chef Danny Boome’s brainchild, is a little speed dating shindig at a restaurant where each participant noshes on every course with a different date—four in all at 20 minutes each. The combination of creative, aphrodisiac-conscious yet unpretentious food and the unlimited bubbly had me at hello.
There was a time, not too long ago, when Saturday was the unofficial date night. Technology in all its guises has changed the playing field. With the onslaught of location-based applications, dating in Internet time has been accelerated to mobile minutes, making it possible for singles to make instant connections premised on proximity.
Groupthink applies even to romance, it seems. According to a recent Indiana University study, one is considerably more appealing to suitors if they get the impression you're popular and in-demand. Overwhelmingly, they found that if others find you adequately charming, those looking on will, too. Sometimes securing a date is as easy as others finding you attractive. My we are an impressionable lot, aren't we?
Look out Twitterverse, there's a new game in town: Flittering. Because the world has gone portmanteau-crazy, Flitter, as a proper noun, means to flirt via Twitter. People go to great lengths to get in on semi-anonymous Flitter action. Singles events, it seems, have to include more than drinks and flirting. People need a gimmick and a company called FastLife is ready to give it to them.
