Speed dating is a strange concept--no question there. Meeting strangers for three-minute increments, trying to decipher chemistry and compatibility before the bell rings, and then starting the get-to-know-you conversation all over again... Strange as it may be, it can be a lot of fun and, judging by its staying power, it's a decent way to meet someone. Before you give speed dating a try, check out some dos and don'ts from YourTango's Experts.
Speed Plating, celebrity chef Danny Boome’s brainchild, is a little speed dating shindig at a restaurant where each participant noshes on every course with a different date—four in all at 20 minutes each. The combination of creative, aphrodisiac-conscious yet unpretentious food and the unlimited bubbly had me at hello.
There was a time, not too long ago, when Saturday was the unofficial date night. Technology in all its guises has changed the playing field. With the onslaught of location-based applications, dating in Internet time has been accelerated to mobile minutes, making it possible for singles to make instant connections premised on proximity.
Groupthink applies even to romance, it seems. According to a recent Indiana University study, one is considerably more appealing to suitors if they get the impression you're popular and in-demand. Overwhelmingly, they found that if others find you adequately charming, those looking on will, too. Sometimes securing a date is as easy as others finding you attractive. My we are an impressionable lot, aren't we?
Look out Twitterverse, there's a new game in town: Flittering. Because the world has gone portmanteau-crazy, Flitter, as a proper noun, means to flirt via Twitter. People go to great lengths to get in on semi-anonymous Flitter action. Singles events, it seems, have to include more than drinks and flirting. People need a gimmick and a company called FastLife is ready to give it to them.
Speed dating isn't a new concept for me. I've tried it once before, and it was a surprisingly painless experience. Hey, I even got a nice, legit second date out of it. But they'd always been relatively small, low-key deals where I'd meet 10 or 12 guys by the end of the night. Not so at the Find Your Luvah speed-dating event held over the weekend in Hoboken, N.J., which organizers hoped would break the world record for number of microdates. I was one of 350 people simultaneously speed-dating, which made it the largest event of its kind in history. With so many people talking in one room and the potential to meet so many guys, I wasn't really nervous. I was, however, overwhelmed by the sheer number of people.
Just last week, we wrote about the possible benefits of mobile dating, the most attractive of which is plain and simple convenience. But at the warp speed at which technology moves, this is suddenly not convenient enough for us anymore. Why get your man off an iPhone app or the Internet when you can more easily get him off a conveyor belt?
Researchers for Finkel & Eastwick watched a group of men and women speed date. They think men may be more selective if women did more pursuing, and similarly women were pickier when the men did the chasing. What can we learn from this? To be assertive in our love lives. Stop waiting for them to happen to us.
Some folks believe that falling in love is a matter of fate—trusting that if they go about their lives, they'll meet their soul mates. Others approach it with the strategy of a business investment. Ron James, 48, for example, contacted hundreds of women—sometimes going on three dates in one day(!)—until he met the right one.
Can DNA predict that elusive quality in the love equation known as "spark"? According to Tamara Brown, founder of the website GenePartner.com, it can, reports Sally McGrane for Time magazine. The Switzerland-based company makes love connections based on genes, or one particular family of genes known as human leukocyte antigens (HLAs).
Hello there, single ladies. Yes, that's right. We're looking at you. Not to worry, though. We are fully on your side. But, we also did take silent note recently at a gathering of our dinner club, comprised of working women who are single, attractive, smart and successful (catches, one might say) who were sitting single in a room.
A company out of New Zealand is coming out with an application that turns a Skype account into a rig for speed dating. The program, Skyecandy, will allow users to input profile info and desired characteristics and they will be connected with a compatible person via Skype for a quick internet date. This sounds like it really has some merit. The downside is that it part of speed dating efficacy is proximity.
A study was released from Harvard University today claiming strangers knows better than you on what will make you happy. The study claims if you haven't tried something (or someone) asking someone who has (and taking their advice) is a better choice than stubbornly trying it on your own and being disappointed. This is chancy and far-fetched, we know, but these researchers swear on their Ivy League credentials that experience is way overrated, and a word to the wise is just time saved in the end.
A recent study at Indiana University proved that both sexes had a tough time figuring out when women were flirting or just going through the motions. In a series of speed dating videos, men were always much easier to read than women. Researchers think women are instinctively more cautious and guarded in the first phases of a romance in order to suss out whether a man will stick around and help raise the children.
Colorado-based psychic Myrna Lou Goldbaum has begun a Friday night series of psychic speed dating. Customers get a palm and pendant chart reading and mingle, while Goldbaum tries to use her psychic powers to predict a love connection. The psychic speed dating has resulted in a few love connections, but the series is too new to make any real predictions. Who said pendant and palm reading doesn't help romance?