The popularity of "Fifty Shades Of Grey" has opened up a number of issues regarding BDSM, feminism and sexual power dynamics. More than the book's reach, the conversations have begun about exactly how many people are into this kind of sex and why they enjoy it. We're a strange animal.
The book "Fifty Shades of Grey" has brought to the forefront of modern society and readers' minds the fact that some women (and men) enjoying BDSM play in their sex lives. SHOCKING, right? What sort of deviant wants to be spanked or tied up or told they're a "bad girl?" I'll tell you: about 60 percent of my friends — mostly women, but some men, too.
I've never been afraid to ask for what I want in bed. I guess because during my teenage years I figured out I was/am a perv and I just owned it. But in my decade-plus of hooking up with dudes, I've come to see being clear about what I want is a bit rare: Guys have told me other women become self-conscious when asking for something risqué or kinky.
My child is three. She is sometimes a terrible three. I have had the typical day most parents have. Not enough time, not enough patience, and not enough sleep and then along comes the unrelenting three-year old terrorist. They ask a million questions, talk over you, cause you to ask people to repeat themself a dozen times over the phone. Then you try to engage the three-year old and she pouts, shouts, and hits. This is where the battle of wits begins. There are many options to redirect the behavior. Some people use guilt, consequences (toys), time outs, and spanking.
Cosmo is at it again, serving up the latest batch of crazy sex advice in their August issue. And once again, College Candy took the opportunity to make digs at their sometimes cringe-worthy sex tips. They've got some pretty hilarious things to say, but we here at YourTango like to add our own hilariousness to the mix.
I've never been afraid to ask for what I want in bed. I guess because during my teenage years I figured out I was/am a perv and I just owned it. But in my decade-plus of hooking up with dudes, I’ve come to see being clear about what I want is a bit rare: Guys have told me other women become self-conscious when asking for something risqué or kinky. So, I'm going to help you out, boys. Here are some things your lady might want, but she's too self-conscious to ask for. Don't pressure anything, of course— but if you offer, you may be pleasantly surprised at how enthusiastically she accepts ...
Jennifer Lopez' ex-husband, Ojani Noa, is back at it again, trying to make a quick buck of his one year marriage 12 years ago to the celebrity super-star. This time by including racy sex game footage in his "parody" film How I Married Jennifer Lopez: The J.Lo and Ojani Noa Story. According to the National Enquirer, the Cuban-born waiter has 11 hours worth of tape that shows her frolicking around half-naked, flashing her crotch and getting spanked.
I thought I'd had "rough sex" before; I'd been spanked on my butt plenty of times, had my hair pulled, even been caned once while strung up with my hands over my head. That hurt, and I cried, and I liked it, because I'm submissive like that, but it was just a one-time thing. I'd had plenty of encounters with talking dirty, spinning all sorts of nasty fantasies, where, most of the time, I was on the receiving end of some very hot epithets. But I'd never wanted to be choked until I got together with the guy I'm dating now.
Should our sexual fantasies be morally and politically correct? Excerpted from Best Sex Writing 2009, erotica writer Kristina Lloyd explores her taste for pleasure with a side of discomfort and the judgment that writing graphic sex scenes draws. An intriguing reflection on fantasies and how they define us.
BDSM torture area. Check. Voyeurism peep hole. Check. Dad, grandma and sister on the payroll. Check. Welcome to the Power Exchange, a sex club unlike any other in San Francisco, California. Like a lot of sex clubs, there's a place to get spanked and a plethora of comfortable, water-resistant furniture. But unlike any we've come across before, it's family owned and operated and has been since 1995. That said, we don't think we'll be bringing Aunt Josie there anytime soon.
Bringing a third party to bed can be daunting, but vibrators, whips, bonding tape and dildos aren't called sex toys for nothing! They're meant to make partnered play time even more fun. Here, we've collected six expert-recommended options sure to spice up the sex lives of couples. Whether experimenting for the first time or shopping for a new stand-by, these couple-friendly sex toys will drive you and your partner wild. More Juicy Content From YourTango:
"I'm a female college student and a feminist. I expect equal pay, equal treatment, and fairness when it comes to chores at home. But I have fantasies of domestic discipline. Some days, I'd like to rush home and clean the apartment and make dinner for my boyfriend wearing only an apron. Then I'd appreciate it if he'd find some excuse--something I did wrong--to spank me until I cry before having wild sex with me." Girlfriend harbors some serious 1950s housewife "Betty Crocker" fantasies, but realizes she doesn't want her relationship to be all Betty Crocker, all the time. The cooking/cleaning/apron-wearing/spanking is a heightened form of foreplay for her, but it looks so much like reality (rather, some people's reality) that she's fearful her guy is going to blend the fantasy into real life
Spanking Advice: how to ask your boyfriend or husband for a spank (spank me, please!) overcome your inhibitions about the bottom (it's sexy!) enjoy being spanked (spank you, Mr. Spank!). Lots of people are into love taps –over-the-knee or tangled up in intercourse, one item on the foreplay buffet or the main event. "For some people, a good hard smack is going to bring nerve endings to life," says Dr. Yvonne Fulbright, sexologist and author of Touch Me There: A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots. It's tricky to find out how many people are doing it, but you don't have to look further than pop culture to see we've got spanks on the brain: paddlings make appearances everywhere from old episodes of I Love Lucy to the 2004 flick Along Came Polly to Broadway's hit show Spring Awakening. Back in 1996, essayist Daphne Merkin shocked New Yorker readers with a frank article about her desire to be spanked by a man; even Justin Timberlake promised in his 2006 single SexyBack, "I'll let you whip me if I misbehave." (Were you talking to Britney, Cameron, or Jessica when you said that, Justin?)