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50 Shades Darker
"Fifty Shades Darker" by E.L. James.

12 Naughtiest Bits From '50 Shades Darker'

What kinky fantasies should you expect in the second installment of the "50 Shades" trilogy?

Food as foreplay, sex on a pool table, and more NSFW passages from the second installment of E.L. James's 'Grey' series.

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She's a confident woman who loves being spanked.

3 Reasons Feminists Can (And Maybe Even Should) Enjoy Spanking

Why feminists (both male and female) are just as likely to like the rough stuff as anybody else.

The book "Fifty Shades Of Grey" is rocketing up the fiction best-seller charts as well as the underwears of America's women. Because of its content, the book has inspired many essays about BDSM, sexual power and contemporary, American ladies.

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Are those Manolos? What size?

Is There A "Sex Fetish Gene"?

Relax, domination and submission fantasies don't mean you're a freak... unless you want to be one.

I am pretty sure that sometimes a cigar is just a cigar and sometimes we really like being tied up despite having a pleasant, if unremarkable upbringing and having great respect for our friends, lovers and neighbors. Mommy and daddy issues are frequently convenient excuses for "embarrassing" desires we've been taught to believe are "sinful."

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She's in no hurry to get back to her high-paying job.

Is Spanking An "Escape" For Powerful Women?

Is BDSM par for the course or did "Fifty Shades of Grey" loosen our inner freaky deak?

The popularity of "Fifty Shades Of Grey" has opened up a number of issues regarding BDSM, feminism and sexual power dynamics. More than the book's reach, the conversations have begun about exactly how many people are into this kind of sex and why they enjoy it. We're a strange animal.

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"Fifty Shades of Grey" by E.L. James.

I'm A Feminist And I Love S&M

About 60% of my friends love spanking, so "Fifty Shades of Grey" taught me nothing new.

The book "Fifty Shades of Grey" has brought to the forefront of modern society and readers' minds the fact that some women (and men) enjoying BDSM play in their sex lives. SHOCKING, right? What sort of deviant wants to be spanked or tied up or told they're a "bad girl?" I'll tell you: about 60 percent of my friends — mostly women, but some men, too.

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5 Sex Moves Women Love, But Are Afraid To Ask For
What are you afraid to ask for in bed?

5 Sex Moves Women Love, But Are Afraid To Ask For

It's time to let go of your fear and ask for what you want sexually.

I've never been afraid to ask for what I want in bed. I guess because during my teenage years I figured out I was/am a perv and I just owned it. But in my decade-plus of hooking up with dudes, I've come to see being clear about what I want is a bit rare: Guys have told me other women become self-conscious when asking for something risqué or kinky.

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To Spank Or Not Spank

To Spank Or Not Spank

Is it okay to spank?

My child is three. She is sometimes a terrible three. I have had the typical day most parents have. Not enough time, not enough patience, and not enough sleep and then along comes the unrelenting three-year old terrorist. They ask a million questions, talk over you, cause you to ask people to repeat themself a dozen times over the phone. Then you try to engage the three-year old and she pouts, shouts, and hits. This is where the battle of wits begins. There are many options to redirect the behavior. Some people use guilt, consequences (toys), time outs, and spanking.

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Kim Kardashian on the cover of Cosmo august 2011

Male Lap Dances, Penis Biting And More: Cosmo's August Issue

The bedroom is no place for a spatula. Sorry, Cosmo.

Cosmo is at it again, serving up the latest batch of crazy sex advice in their August issue. And once again, College Candy took the opportunity to make digs at their sometimes cringe-worthy sex tips. They've got some pretty hilarious things to say, but we here at YourTango like to add our own hilariousness to the mix.

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I Was In A Dominant/Submissive Relationship

How one woman chose, and enjoyed, to be dominated.

Ben was not abusive. I was not being hurt, nor was I unhappy. We were in a dominant/submissive relationship—or playing at one, anyway—and following his orders got me unbelievably, unbelievably turned on

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Guys: What We Wish You Would Do In Bed

5 sexy moves most women are embarrassed to ask for.

I've never been afraid to ask for what I want in bed. I guess because during my teenage years I figured out I was/am a perv and I just owned it. But in my decade-plus of hooking up with dudes, I’ve come to see being clear about what I want is a bit rare: Guys have told me other women become self-conscious when asking for something risqué or kinky. So, I'm going to help you out, boys. Here are some things your lady might want, but she's too self-conscious to ask for. Don't pressure anything, of course— but if you offer, you may be pleasantly surprised at how enthusiastically she accepts ...

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J. Lo Fears Spanking Video To Surface

J. Lo Fears Spanking Video To Surface

Ex-husband threatens to release home movies of the star's famous backside getting spanked and more!

Jennifer Lopez' ex-husband, Ojani Noa, is back at it again, trying to make a quick buck of his one year marriage 12 years ago to the celebrity super-star. This time by including racy sex game footage in his "parody" film How I Married Jennifer Lopez: The J.Lo and Ojani Noa Story. According to the National Enquirer, the Cuban-born waiter has 11 hours worth of tape that shows her frolicking around half-naked, flashing her crotch and getting spanked.