Using spanking as a punishment leads to the repetition and escalation of problematic behaviors.
Sometimes a little 'love pat' is all you need to rev each other up. Who knows? It may inspire some sexy role-playing à la 'Fifty Shades.'
Mike Rice, the former coach of Rutgers University's men's basketball team, was fired for what some might describe as his 'tough love' form of coaching. But does this work as a parenting style? Does 'tough love' parenting raise responsible, well-behaved kids or does it simply emotionally cripple them?
50 Shades of Grey has given millions of people permission to begin exploring the kinkier side of sex. Attendance at fetish clubs and in online kinky communities are at an all-time high, and it is no longer taboo to admit your interest in exploring rough sex and role playing. As more and more people begin sampling from the banquet of BDSM and kink, it is important to remember that there is a wide spectrum of intensity to explore.
Suppose your child has left Legos all over the living room again! Can you picture the chaos? Can you feel yourself become frustrated immediately? Are your shoulders instantly stiffening just thinking about the scene and the consequences? And this was just pretend. What happens when you are right in the midst of inappropriate behavior? Ponder What Discipline Really Means
Spanking is a pretty common desire (on both sides of the ass smacking ;) and it’s a sexy activity with a wide range of approaches. It can be kinky, but it doesn’t have to be. It can be part of power play, but that might not have anything to do with it for you. Or it might be simple about the physical sensations.
A study published in the July issue of the journal Pediatrics discovered a link between adult-onset mental health disorders — including substance abuse and anxiety — and childhood physical punishment — including spanking — thereby begging the question: How should parents discipline their kids?
The "Fifty Shades" books continue to generate buzz. As an expert in dominance and submission, as well as a general sexual enthusiast, I have a few ideas about how the "Fifty Shades" books became so popular and why they won't be losing their steam anytime soon.
Spanking is one of those hot button parenting topics and most people have a strong belief on one side or the other. When considering discipline methods, I always talk to parents about 1) what are you teaching your child 2) are you modeling the behavior you want your child to emulate and 3) what is the long term impact/consequence of the discipline method you are employing.
The first time I asked a guy to spank me in bed, he suggested I double up on my therapy sessions. When I asked him a second time, he did it — but in a half-assed way because it wasn't his thing. While I respect that, I knew that if I didn't get properly spanked at some point soon, I was going to lose it.