What in the world IS the Love Lifestyle? First of all, it’s living life at 100%…NOW, knowing that life is a precious gift and can be taken away at any moment. It’s turning off the TV, the iPhone and yes, the Internet regularly to connect with yourself… your highest self. It’s disconnecting from messages of mediocrity that are pervasive in this society, that continually condition us all to live a life that’s “normal” and to live within the status quo.
I shared with you the first 5 ways to slow down your path to love. I received so much amazing feedback and shares about your aha’s, so I’m super excited to share the last four “NOT-to-do’s”. 6. Leaky Energy (aka Friends With Benefits)
While a lot of articles on finding love focus on what to do, there is a lot to be learned from what NOT to do. After 7 years of working with women to attract their soulmate, here are our insights on how spiritual, single, successful women undermine themselves and jeopardize their love life.
To live your best life with your true love, it’s all about YOU… YOUR peace of mind, your mindset, your vibrational level, your joy. YOU. I recently read a true story about a woman who was single and sick of it. She had been doing all the “inner work” to magnetize her soulmate. She had read all the books, set up her vision board, and her love altar, she even had her list complete, but nothing was happening in the love arena.
Do these thoughts come up for you (or some version of them)? - I should lose weight and have a perfectly fit and toned body before I attract my beloved into my life. - I should be more financially stable or have a certain level of income before I manifest my soulmate - I should just have myself more together before he shows up.
Truth tellin’ time, ya’ll. You’ve had some relationships. Some great ones and some horrible ones and maybe most were somewhere a little bit of both. No matter how they turned out, they all revealed something about you. Something important. Something that you can learn from and evolve from and ultimately, if you want to, be able to gather your energy in such a way that you become a powerful magnet for your true love and living your dream life with him.
Okay, I know that being “reluctantly single” is not fun. I know that it gets lonely sometimes. And frustrating. And it seems like there just aren’t enough good single, heterosexual men in your area that you happen to live in. Sometimes you wonder if you’ll ever find your true love.
What are YOU committed to? “Love!” “Soulmate Love!” “Lifelong partnership!” “The man of my dreams!” – You may be saying. Many people do. Nobody would SAY “I’m committed to more of the same unfulfilling relationships I’ve had the last ten years.” So why does it keep happening? Because, uhm…how can I say this? Often we’re just full of it. And scared. And Busy. And scared. And… just don’t know any better.
Here’s my dream: to inspire spiritual, single women to step into their power, speak their truth and live the life of their dreams with their soulmate by their side. Why do you want to find your soulmate? Why do you want to live the life of your dreams?Are you chasing the “paper” (just the guy, the money, the hot body, the next job promotion) or are you going for fulfillment, joy, peace, self-love- your dreams?
Many people seek to find true love by looking for compatibility, matching life experience, shared interests, and warm fuzzy feelings. Sounds pretty good so far, right? I mean…who could be against that? Well, I’m not against that, but there is a trap in focusing on compatibility, comfort, and convenience – it’s BORING!
I was sitting around this morning and I realized something that really hit me like a ton of bricks: we’re all looking for our soulmates out there. Everyday millions of people are going out on dates hoping and praying that they’ve met “the one” or their soulmate. Everyday people are logging into online dating sites hoping that the new e-mail is from their soulmate.
When many people think about love, they may not think that being strong has a lot to do with it. But it does. Or maybe they do think of strength, but in the sense of being strong and protecting yourself from being hurt. The walls that are built to protect are the same walls that keep one from feeling their true feelings. I understand why these walls are built, but it’s a false protection, and doesn’t give one the sense of joy, peace, even security that is often what we really want. You can live strongly without those walls -
I believe that we can have many soul mates in our life, each relationship becoming a part of our soul’s evolution. Soul mates bring us to different levels of ourselves until we reach the beloved experience within, the ultimate partnership. Soul mates can be stepping-stones to the beloved experience. I have met couples who have stayed together through the struggle and have evolved into the safe, sacred and passionate belovedness.
“I remember picking myself up off the floor....I could taste the blood running into my mouth....I’d never been hit before--I was shocked, humiliated and very scared.” So many years ago and yet even now, it chills me to read those words. You might think that it chills me because being assaulted so violently forever marked my soul, but you would be wrong. What chills me is that I was so deaf and blind to my own guidance and found myself within 100 miles of such violence.
Manifestation continues to make headlines as stars like Jim Carrey, Oprah Winfrey and Ellen DeGeneres tout manifestation techniques as part of their career strategy. If you want the life of your dreams, say the gurus, keep picturing that new job or that perfect soul mate or new home will amazingly come to be, it must come to be. It is Universal Law.