Marriage and relationship experts agree on the importance of communicating love to our partners often and in a variety of forms. In his New York Times bestseller The 5 Love Languages, Gary Chapman makes a strong case for spouses learning to communicate love to one another in many forms, but especially in the way the spouse best receives love.
Johnny and I have been helping people magnetize their soulmate (officially and unofficially) for a little over 7 years now…and one question just keeps coming up over and over again. Today, I’m going to answer it once and for all: Our definition of a Soulmate. When you have found your soulmate, you’ll recognize him (or her) by 3 major criteria:
I once had a friend who was on the constant hamster wheel of "almost-men." She continuously dated men who were not her match, but whom she thought she could fix to become her match. She was miserable and exhausted most of the time from all her failed efforts.
I have a question for you. And please let it really sink in- please don’t just rapidly scan over it. Take your time to contemplate and answer it for yourself. There’s a saying that “the quality of your life is determined by the quality of the questions that you ask yourself”… so this is what I would call a Quality Question! In fact, I think it’s one of the most empowering and high vibration questions that is possible to ask someone!
One of my favorite words in the English language is courage. Just saying it out loud sometimes moves my soul to actually feel more courageous. The word courage comes from the Old French definition: “cour” means heart and -age means the period or era. So it literally means “time of the heart! It takes courage to start to believe that Soulmate Love is even possible for you.
It was a typical glamorous day in the life of Lara Fernandez. Standing in a long line at the local grocery store, short on time and patience, mindlessly watching the customers ahead of me buying their groceries. As I slowly and painfully inched closer to the checkout counter, I noticed, one customer ahead of me, an interaction between the checkout lady and two Latino men who looked like day laborers. They obviously didn’t speak any English as they tried to swipe their debit card and punch the correct buttons in the credit card machine to pay for their food.
In LOVE…and every area of life. Johnny and I have always looked to be “dreaming BIG” and keeping our feet on “solid ground.” Sometimes the “dreaming” part took over, sometimes the “solid ground” part took over. What about you? You May Say I’m A Dreamer… Have you had people tell you that you’re “too much of a dreamer?” that you need to be “more practical?” or “realistic?” Well, if so, cheer up – you are in GREAT company!
What in the world IS the Love Lifestyle? First of all, it’s living life at 100%…NOW, knowing that life is a precious gift and can be taken away at any moment. It’s turning off the TV, the iPhone and yes, the Internet regularly to connect with yourself… your highest self. It’s disconnecting from messages of mediocrity that are pervasive in this society, that continually condition us all to live a life that’s “normal” and to live within the status quo.
I shared with you the first 5 ways to slow down your path to love. I received so much amazing feedback and shares about your aha’s, so I’m super excited to share the last four “NOT-to-do’s”. 6. Leaky Energy (aka Friends With Benefits)
While a lot of articles on finding love focus on what to do, there is a lot to be learned from what NOT to do. After 7 years of working with women to attract their soulmate, here are our insights on how spiritual, single, successful women undermine themselves and jeopardize their love life.
To live your best life with your true love, it’s all about YOU… YOUR peace of mind, your mindset, your vibrational level, your joy. YOU. I recently read a true story about a woman who was single and sick of it. She had been doing all the “inner work” to magnetize her soulmate. She had read all the books, set up her vision board, and her love altar, she even had her list complete, but nothing was happening in the love arena.
Do these thoughts come up for you (or some version of them)? - I should lose weight and have a perfectly fit and toned body before I attract my beloved into my life. - I should be more financially stable or have a certain level of income before I manifest my soulmate - I should just have myself more together before he shows up.
Truth tellin’ time, ya’ll. You’ve had some relationships. Some great ones and some horrible ones and maybe most were somewhere a little bit of both. No matter how they turned out, they all revealed something about you. Something important. Something that you can learn from and evolve from and ultimately, if you want to, be able to gather your energy in such a way that you become a powerful magnet for your true love and living your dream life with him.
Okay, I know that being “reluctantly single” is not fun. I know that it gets lonely sometimes. And frustrating. And it seems like there just aren’t enough good single, heterosexual men in your area that you happen to live in. Sometimes you wonder if you’ll ever find your true love.
What are YOU committed to? “Love!” “Soulmate Love!” “Lifelong partnership!” “The man of my dreams!” – You may be saying. Many people do. Nobody would SAY “I’m committed to more of the same unfulfilling relationships I’ve had the last ten years.” So why does it keep happening? Because, uhm…how can I say this? Often we’re just full of it. And scared. And Busy. And scared. And… just don’t know any better.
Here’s my dream: to inspire spiritual, single women to step into their power, speak their truth and live the life of their dreams with their soulmate by their side. Why do you want to find your soulmate? Why do you want to live the life of your dreams?Are you chasing the “paper” (just the guy, the money, the hot body, the next job promotion) or are you going for fulfillment, joy, peace, self-love- your dreams?