YourTango Experts provide advice on how to align your social life with your relationship goals.
It's natural—when seeking out a healthy love relationship—to want to change yourself for the better. You think that a new haircut will make him fall in love again... a pretty dress will turn heads... an extreme diet and exercise regimen will make you worth loving. And these things can put an extra bounce in your step. But the best way to attract love into your life is to live your best life, a life in which romantic love is just the cherry on top. Has your social life—or lack thereof—been holding you back from love... and from overall happiness? We asked three experts for tips on how you can evaluate your social habits, and change them for the better.
I went stag to a bar, but going out without my better half is something we're both completely fine with. We trust each other implicitly, and if my man wants to stay home on a Friday night because his brain is absolutely pooped while I'm amped to pay a visit to the local watering hole, then we should be able to. In fact, we are able to.
This weekend, Frank and I were invited to spend the fourth at friend’s family’s house in Vermont. We’d gone for the holiday last year, too, and knew that it was going to be awesome—the property is huge and beautiful and wooded, the house is old and charming, there’s tons of stuff to do and games to play and the couple who host always procure plenty of delicious food and booze.
So in short, we knew going in that we were going to have a good time. Last year, the group that went up was fairly small and made up of disparate parts: us, the hosts, a couple of friends from Neal (the male host)’s law school and a couple of ladies from Caroline (the female host)’s business school. Yes, by the way, all my friends are accomplished except for me.
There’s been a trend brewing recently, and we’re on the fence: pajama parties for adults. A new take on the cocktail party, with a very new spin on the dress code, as reported by the San Francisco Chronicle? We’ll take it. Giggling, grown women holding séances and doing each other’s makeup, by way of the Binghamton Press? Not so much.
Who knows? Maybe you’ll know whether your next boyfriend prefers boxers or briefs before you even know his name. Could make for an interesting answer to, “So how did you two meet?”…
