Tired of terrible dates? Personal development coach Debra Smouse has 10 totally fabulous suggestions for you. Read on and never go through the misery of another bad date again.
Love. The definition is much-debated, and the reality varies, depending upon where you are in your relationship. For example, love when you're walking down the aisle to exchange your "I Dos" is pretty different from the love you share when you're celebrating your hard-won, 50-year anniversary. The thing is, many of us aren't even close to the proposal phase, let alone wedding or golden anniversary. What we want to know is: Does he like me? Does he really like me? Here's how to tell he's smitten.
You are in a state. "Pangs of love," you say as you roll over on the couch, pantomiming stab motions to the heart. Your roommate looks bemused. It's the third or fourth date, and lately you've been struggling to hold off sending those late-night, inappropriate text messages. "Head. Heels. You. Me." (send--no wait, delete.) Instead, you're on your knees, head in hands, summoning the forces of the universe to carry your love cry out to the one you desire. Does he hear? Maybe. Will it be returned? The silence of everything you feel and everything that has not been communicated is deafening. Surely he feels it, too? Why do you not pick up the phone and call? Why did you cancel on Friday? Why are you still not Facebook friends? Why? Because Beth Wareham says so.
Love Bytes: three must-click love, sex and relationship links. So you've found out through Facebook that your boyfriend is cheating on you. Consider responding as follows. [Buzzfeed] Sometimes we all do awkward things in our sleep. Like mistake our significant others for a bowl of chili. [Smitten] She wants to have her size FF breasts surgically reduced. He wants to talk her out of it. Should he even have a say in the matter? [The Frisky]
What counts as adultery? For one woman in England the answer is virtual sex. The staff at Wowowow delves into the case of Amy Pollard who is leaving her husband of three years after discovering he was having an online affair in Second Life. The twist? Amy and her husband first met while playing Second Life, so we guess she knows a thing or two about how these online affairs can end up. The Frisky is getting ready for the holidays with this handy guide on how NOT to deal with his family. Good to know we aren't the only ones who have been dreading Thanksgiving this year.
My friends and I seem to take dating a lot more seriously than our mothers did. Perhaps too seriously. We obsess about every interaction, overanalyze each conversation. As much as we crave relationships, they also scare the everloving crap out of us because we have all seen what can happen when a woman makes the wrong choice… I think it's vital to spend a long time getting to know someone before you commit to a life with him. But the constant analysis doesn't leave a girl with much hope of walking into a room one day and being love-struck, the way my mother was. Or so I always thought.